I'm not quite sure if attachment issues is the correct term for what I feel.
But il describe it,
I have 2 sons, 1 is a baby and 1 is 5 years old.
Ever since my baby son arrived I admit I struggled to give attention to my elder one as my baby needed a lot of attention and breastfeeding him took ages. Before that we were extremely close . So my elder one would be left in the care of grandparents. He is quite close to both sets of grandparents. And my husbands parents in particular are very eager to look after him.
Now my baby is 1, but I feel that the grandparents really have a hold on my elder child. They've come unannounced sometimes and just taken him out. They've taken him to fairgrounds and all these fun things he likes to do. We as parents do take him out too. But it just really feels crappie that when they take him as parents we aren't there to take part in the experience and even if we are he gravitates to them more and wants to go off with them more. So the day is like we are hanging around in the background. It feels like they are making so many memories and there to build first time experiences with him and I feel like a crap mum when I'm around them as he prefers them over me and he's actually having fun. It literally makes my stomach churn. They take a lot of pictures too and share them out and when I see these pictures I just feel like crap. I know I should feel happy but I can't and I'm not quite sure why I feel like this. Anyone ever had this? How do you cope with this stuff mentally? Does it get better? I just want a close relationship with my child.