My first was a tricky newborn. He would only nap outside, in a continuously moving pram (would wake up and scream as soon as I stopped walking). I walked miles and miles every day. Absolutely hated the sling and only wanted to be carried on my shoulder at home. Took tiny breastfeeds every hour or so, day and night. Had colic and combined cluster feeding and screaming every evening from 3 or 4pm ish for 3-5 hours. Screamed for about 3 months every time he was put down.
As he was my first, I dedicated myself 100% to him and things got much better from about 6 months. He’s now a great 2 year old, with the usual 2 year old stuff obviously.
I’d love a second, but I just don’t know how I would cope with a second newborn like that as he literally required 100% of me. I’ve already decided I would combination feed from the off and if it stops breastfeeding early so be it. I would use the 30 free hours for oldest, who already goes to nursery 3 days/week. DH works away a fair bit and we have no local family.
I guess one would just always be crying though when oldest not at nursery. It gives me so much fear 😪anyone got any other suggestions? How on earth do you do toddler bedtime with a cluster feeding, screaming newborn for example?