Parental leave together

[Zibidee]

So we were lucky enough to be on parental leave together, at least I thought it was lucky. In the early days it was great being able to share sleeping, feeding etc. But now, 4months in I'm getting sick of being around DH. I feel like I need to be out with the baby just to escape DH.
We were together for 10yrs before baby arrived and it definitely wasn't plain sailing due to his mental and physical health but we always worked through arguments within a few hours. And we would only argue during stressful periods like moving house, changing jobs, planning our wedding, grieving for parents. But now we argue 3-4 times a week about parenting strategies and often go to bed still in disagreement.
I'm starting to wonder if I chose the right person to have a child with and feel bad for bringing our baby into a household of arguments.
Is this just how it goes with a new baby or is this a sign of something more serious?

How long are you going to be spending 24 hours a day together ?
I imagine that must be fairly stifling. I would certainly find it claustrophobic.

I love dh, and enjoy spending time with him but I wouldn't want to spend all day, every day with him. We both need a break from monotony. We need to mix with different people, go to different places, use our brains in ways other than "looking after the baby and the house". We do things without the other one and have then have conversation to talk to each other about.
No way could I spend 24 / 7 with him other than holidays. Nor he I.

Why is your dh taking parental leave at the same time as you ?
Isn't the point of shared parental leave that you both get to parent and you both continue with your work - in turn ?

You many cooks springs to mind with the parenting disagreement. When I was pregnant didnt want my husband to go back to work when the baby come and I wanted us to be together at all times but bang once baby came after his parental leave and he went back to work I got into my own grove with the baby and spent our time together and it was wonderful so your going to argue about parental things as your both figuring out ways to parent at the same time in the same situations so I wouldn't worry about if you have had a baby with the right person your both just learning don't be so hard on yourself. Also everyone knows if you spend day and night together all the time your going to annoy eachother. Take an hour and go food shopping on your own WITHOUT either your DH or baby and or go get a cofeee, go for a walk or a workout whatever you want just do it and same goes for your husband it will give you both something other to talk about tha the baby and parental ideas

My DH was off for a month after the birth of our DD and I felt bad for thinking it at the time but after a couple of weeks I couldn’t wait for him to go back to work! FWIW we still have a great relationship, I just found it stifling as PP said.

We're only doing it together because he was too unwell to work before the baby was born and although he's better now he wants to be fully involved with the baby. So he's taking more time before looking for work again. But I don't want to go back to work yet as this will probably be our only one so I don't want to miss out. Plus my work is stressful and I am breastfeeding and can't imagine how I'm going to continue that if I go back too early.
I do try and do my own thing sometimes but it's probably not often enough, maybe 2-3 things a week but only for a couple of hours if he has the baby otherwise I'll need to feed.
Because he's still a bit low on energy he hardly ever leaves the house. And plus with heatwaves it's too hot for either of us to go out.
I'm sure you're all right it's just too much time together and both wanting to be the primary carer. I guess we need to have a chat about it, I'm on leave til March and we can't carry on like this.

I have a really great relationship with my DH, we lived overseas just us for a long time and tbh even now spend the majority of our time together just us and DC HOWEVER he took 6 weeks paternity leave when DS2 was born and after 4 weeks I was sick of the sight of him and just wanted him to go back to work so I could get my own routine sorted.