Toddler saying she needs a pee to avoid bedtime

[Mamabear04]

DD is 2.9yo and is completely day time potty trained. About a month ago she started waking during the night to say she needed a pee and has been more often than not having dry nappies for around a month now but I still don't feel confident to remove them completely. She absolutely hates going to bed (loves life too much) and now has figured out that as soon as we kiss her goodnight and shut the door that if she says she needs a pee she will get out of bed to go to the toilet. It's obvious she just is trying to avoid going to sleep (and basically says so) and when we take her off the toilet (having not pee'd) and put her back I bed she will scream the house down saying she needs. I really don't know what to do because she is obviously lying to get out of bed but then I don't want to discourage her from calling to go to the toilet at night because I want to encourage her being dry at nights. Any ideas about what to do?

Would leaving her door open help her stay settled? Don't think I have ever shut my dc in..

Sure take her to the toilet but you say absolutely nothing, no conversation.

Put her back to bed with a night night and not another word.

If she does it again, rinse and repeat.

Do not engage in conversation. She will soon realise you're not budging from her bedtime and will give up.

We put a night light in their rooms and left a potty on a mat.

Didn't ever get woken up for wees at night.

@Creepymanonagoatfarm it's not so much her settling it's more her wanting to get up and play and talk to us that's the problem. She's quite happy in her bed by herself.

@AhNowTed that sounds like it could work although I'm not sure how to not say anything to someone who is talking at you (lol) but will give it a try!

@PritiPatelsMaker DD is still in a cotbed with the sides on so we need to lift her out to take her to the toilet (she miraculously hasn't figured out she can climb out!!!)

DD is still in a cotbed with the sides on so we need to lift her out to take her to the toilet (she miraculously hasn't figured out she can climb out!!

Oh well in that case, don't let in that she can!

@Mamabear04 "I'm not sure how to not say anything to someone who is talking at you (lol) but will give it a try!"

By engaging in chat, you are effectively rewarding her.

Stop engaging, so no reward and she will bore of it.

@AhNowTed does what we did. We became very dull and unchatty and would rapid return them to bed. Very effective for our three, who could, as a collective, talk the hind legs off a whole herd of donkeys.

This is what I do with my son when he does this. He knows I know he doesn't really need a poo.

This is really good advice and should be used for all night wakeups. No communication, no eye contact, nothing.

Thanks everyone! Will try this tonight. Pray for us, we are at the end of our tether!