Separation with young children

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I am looking for some impartial advice please as I don’t want to discuss with family and friends.
I have made the decision that I want to leave my husband and we have 2 young children (3 & 6). It’s been a long time coming and an accumulation of reasons but I was looking for advice on when to do it. My husband will be the one to leave the family home and though I think he knows deep down that I’m not happy, I don’t think he’ll be expecting me to say that I want a divorce.
Currently school holidays and we have a family winter holiday booked not long before Christmas.
So my question is, do I just do it and soon. Do I have one last holiday and Christmas the 4 of us, do I wait for the new year.
We’re amicable, it won’t be too difficult to put on a happy pretence for the children until the new year - I just don’t know if I am prolonging the inevitable just for one last Christmas and if it will be easier or harder (particularly for my eldest) to have had a nice Christmas and then be sat down for the “daddy’s leaving” talk?

There will always be a reason to put it off so I reckon the best advice is if you’re certain in your decision then get on and do it. It’s not going to be any less painful in a few months time.

having said that I’m in your position and I’m putting it off until we have to remortgage next year so I’m not one to talk!

That's such a difficult decision but I can imagine there's never a perfect time to have the chat

So you haven't told him you want to divorce, but you've unilaterally decided that 'he will be the one to leave the family home'? That's really not how it works and you are in for quite a rude awakening if he has done his research

How do you know it will be amicable?