I’m so fed up

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7.5mo doesn’t sleep well. He goes down well 7.30 then up until 1am. From 1am he is so hard to settle and get him stay asleep he ends up in our bed which I want to try stop but I’m so exhausted

DP just isn’t listening to me. He says I’m strict because I don’t want our baby under 1 watching TV or having chocolate. 2 things his mum wants to do with him and which I don’t want so I haven’t let her mind him. Which makes DP nag at me and he’s getting annoyed with me and doesn’t see why I can’t drop what I believe.

l I just feel so alone I don’t have friends I have a really small family

My son is my life without him I’d have nothing. But I know I need to change otherwise when he’s older and has his own life I’ll be stuck behind and so alone and I don’t want to smother him

is it normal to feel like this I feel like the only person I have in the world is my baby

Hello OP I think it is normal to feel a bit alone with a baby when you are so tired and are not supported by those closest to you. However I wonder if things are getting you down too much if it is worth asking your health visitor or GP about PND?
What could Dh do that would really help you feel better? Time for a walk or a swim or just going to the shops? Tell him to stop whinging about his mother and take care of DS himself while you have some time to feel more like yourself. Its not recommended that babies that small have chocolate, point out the nhs guidance to them on that.
Do you know other mums in your area, are there any groups or playgroups you could meet some?

Also remember you’re doing really well! You’re getting through a very hard stage without much support. Things will get easier

Hang in there. They do usually settle down after this age. ( Although of course teething will also start in a few months).

It seems wrong that anyone would regularly give him chocolate, when you are against it and your partner should support you in this.

Don't get too hung up on the time he goes down. There's no need to keep it very early if he's still waking. I'm assuming you don't think he's hungry when he wakes- for solids that is. At 7.5 months I assume he's having a nice meal with some solids in the evening.

Worrying about him watching a little tv in the evening probably is a waste of energy. I'd concentrate on the more important stuff. Give him his tea, a bath, milk, book and then quiet time. Some nights he'll sleep longer, some he'll wake early. Just try to go with the flow. He will get better, I'm sure. When they're more mobile they get more tired, Try not to worry.