Peanut app.. has anyone actually used it?

[winterbabyrose]

I am a FTM to my 6 month old DD, and don't really have any mum friends as I am the first in my friend group to settle down and have a baby - your mid 20s are a weird time as half my friend group still want to go out partying every weekend! The others are now only just starting to get houses etc with their partners, but are a long way off marriage and kids.

I am also back working full time (from home), so I can't make it out to any local baby sensory classes etc, as they all seem to be during the day. This therefore makes making new mum friends rather difficult.

I have heard about the peanut app, but have been hesitant to download it. Has anyone on here actually used it??

I have and made great friends through it. The secret is to be the first to say hi as not many people do, maybe shyness. Weekend meetings might be tricky if they are home all week and spare the weekend to family but it depends how close you both live from each other, if very close it's not such an issue to spend an hour or so for a quick meet.

Haven’t used it, but am interested to see the replies as I’ve been thinking about how to meet more people.

I met a lovely woman and her child on there when I moved areas but a lot of users seemed to have confused it with actual Tinder and there are lots of heavily filtered pouting selfies..also quite a few women seem to be using it to promote their businesses ie I messaged a couple of people who after chatting me up a bit then mentioned the toddler group/activity they were setting up locally which inevitably wasn't free!

I did at first but found conversation quite hard work with most of the people I spoke with. Maybe I just didn't click with anyone though.

It is odd though....like tinder for mum friends!

Used it for a couple months but do anymore. The message boards are quite amusing..full of 'i ate an apple pip and now am worried my baby is actually an apple tree' and 'do you think it's ok to say 'no' to a toddler?'😁

No but I have thought about using them but the idea seems so weird and false making friends on an app so following with interest

I have used it and have met a couple of women who I have clicked with, but no idea if it will go anywhere as I am still not in a rush to socialise with anyone new.

I think you’ll find it difficult to find someone who is looking for weekend meets as it is full of Mat leave and SAHMs looking for people to meet up on a Wednesday morning. Weekends tend to be for partners, family and established friends so people are less keen to meet.

You won’t be the only person in your boat though- so I’d advertise your availability on your profile so someone can swipe right on you if you are looking for the same thing.

You could also post an ‘ad’ on your local mum Facebook group to see if anyone fancies a coffee on a Saturday morning?
Or go to Parkrun with a running buggy or as a volunteer and get chatting there- tends to be lots of families?
Another idea would be to go to a family friendly brunch spot to meet people- I have a cafe near me with a scandi style soft play and there is always a different mum having a coffee with her baby or toddler there.

oh god- the forum element of it!

-”can I asked to be induced because I want my baby to be a Gemini”

-posts two pictures of pretty grim men
“which one looks like my baby?”

-“i have been craving salty crisps does this mean I am having a boy”

it’s yahoo answers on speed

Agree about the over filtered profile photos, I find some of them so odd 😂 and don't get me started about the forums as other posters have commented on 🤦🏼‍♀️😅 but I do use it and have spoken to a few women though nothing has come of any chats yet. It can be good for sharing advice etc.

Tried it. Hated it.

Maybe there weren't enough users in my area, but even when I was really proactive about messaging people, most people didn't message back. The few that did resulted in awkward, stilted conversations that just petered out.

The groups were also grim. Full of humble-brag questions about "My 4-week old just slept for 6 hours. I'm worried she's hungry!" Or just a platform to promote someone's wellness coaching. Definitely contributed to me feeling anxious in the first few weeks.

Deleted it now. No regrets.

I’ve tried it twice now and don’t know why I bothered a second time. I find people don’t really want to bother with chatting which is strange seeing as that’s the whole idea (maybe it me 🤔). The odd few times I’ve met up with someone I’ve met on there it’s never gone any further than a few park meet ups then fizzled out.

I found that the filters were useless so I was looking for mum's near me with older children but there weren't any so it was giving me mum's fifty miles away with newborns. Totally pointless.

I've used it and found my very first mum friend on there when our babies were 2 months old. We only lived around the corner from each other.

You have to be bold though and start the conversation, as a lot of people will match to you but not do anything about it.

I've been using peanut since I first found out I was pregnant, I unfortunately had a miscarriage and that shattered my world.
I found a great support and network of women on peanut who have been through the same thing and I've connected with people who are going through the same thing.
This is been a serious help for me and so happy to have a place like peanut to share those things.

I am using it still. Its been nearly 2 years. The main thing is that you have to check the settings to see every waves that you have. Some people doesn't know that and can't receive the waves.