Looking for reassurance- am I being silly?

[CinnamonHamster]

I'm not sure if this is just standard FTM worries, period hormones or could possibly be accurate but I feel like my 3 month old DS doesn't like me very much.

I love him more than anything and feel very bonded to him however he has lately seemed a bit less lovey with me. He doesn't want to sit and cuddle unless feeding (EBF), he doesn't look at me or make eye contact when breastfeeding any more and seems to cry a lot when with me as opposed to his dad. Even when playing he seems to not respond to my funny voices / faces / toys like his dads.

He has been chewing his hands loads for weeks now and i worry he is self soothing as he's not getting his comfort from me :(. Any advice on how to build the love back up or on why this might be happening? TIA xx

This will be just one of many phases. Don't worry at all.

I read babies prefer deeper voices that is probably why your partner gets more of a reaction. The baby is also maybe not looking at you as his eye sight has improved and he is looking at everything else as it’s all so new to
him. Honestly wouldn’t worry. The hands - he has probably just realised he has them lol.

My eldest preferred my partner WAY more than she liked me and this went on for months. It wasn't until she was maybe 18 months old, maybe a bit older, that I felt she actually wanted to spend time with me.
We put it down to the fact she just got a bit bored with me, whereas my partner she only saw when he wasn't working, so morning, lunch and evening. Also he could just sit and play with her for the short time he had with her, whereas I was trying to do the laundry/cook dinner/tidy up the house whilst I was looking after her, so I wasn't the "fun parent" to be around. It made me feel like a terrible mother (I found those first months extremely dull of I'm honest 😂) but now she definitely loves us equally and will ask for both of us equally etc.

Regarding the chewing hands - this is standard baby development at this stage and is not anything about you.