after feeding, she can’t be put straight back in the crib or else she gets the hiccups and she starts grunting and flailing her arms about until she spits up. She needs to be held up right for a long long time and even then sometimes she isn’t comfortable and she cries, it takes her falling asleep in your arms to finally be transferred to the crib without a fuss. This is a new thing, it started about 5 days ago. She used to just fall asleep without all of this fussing about. I think she has reflux and she’s uncomfortable. Either that or she wants to feel secure and to be held, but she has a preference of who she is held by.
her dad and I take it in turns to feed her and what not. I’ve been extremely sleep deprived so I’ve had a solid 4 hours sleep some nights and her dad has looked after her while I rest. Her dad told me that she fell asleep in his arms and he lay her back down in the crib, but then she woke up crying again for his attention so had to pick her back up again. When I pick her up, it seems to soothe her for a short amount of time but then she starts screaming her head off again, but with her dad, she seems to find comfort in his arms. I don’t know whether it’s because he is chubby and he has got padded arms so he’s more comfortable to lie on, but she seems to prefer him over me. She’s only 18 days , correct me if I’m wrong, I thought that was too early to form personal attachments.
i thought newborns were meant to find comfort with their mothers, and to have that automatic bond with them after spending 9 months inside their womb but clearly not in my case. I find it upsetting.
any opinions?