Sounds , like an obvious question I know.
We have three children, two then a 6 year gap then #3.
First two had very different younger years, no preschool, home educated for years, peaceful slow pace of life. At 12 and 10 they are calm (ish!), well behaved etc. #3 has been at preschool since before 2 years old, and is generally a more rambunctious character. He's a delight and universally adored, but his behaviour leaves a little to be desired.
Due to DH working away quite a lot when he was tiny we fell into the routine of me doing all bedtimes etc, and he definitely plays up way more for me than anyone else. Nags me, calls me rude names etc. I'm his favourite, which means he behaves far worse for me. I do not know how to respond to this. I find myself not wanting to 'provoke' him by holding firm sometimes as it explodes, with his favourite being a term he brought back from nursery: "butt-hole".I don't want this in public as it is embarrassing, so I try to smooth over.
And so the behaviour continues. I don't know whether I should be ignoring the l;anguage so that it loses appeal, or clamping down? He starts school in Sept and I want them to see the loving, fun little boy and not a rude little scrote!