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BiscoffSundae · 02/08/2022 22:51

ds 10 and dd 11 both have asd and have no friends, both haven’t had any all the way through school apart from in the very first years for ds but he now doesn’t speak to them, I’ve tried to encourage them to make friends but both aren’t interested, I’ve been told by people if they aren’t interested then to leave them to it but obviously with the 6 weeks holiday it’s a long time to have no other interaction with children, of course I take them out but they aren’t the type to speak to kids when out and otherwise they are at home all day when in the holidays usually kids would be out playing with friends or meeting up with friends. It wasn’t so bad when they was young but it’s getting harder as they get older. Has anyone else had children that have been the same but gone on to make friends at secondary school? I worry about secondary school particularly for ds and think it would be nice if he made even 1 or 2 friends he could meet up with in the holidays. Is there anything I can do to encourage friends or should I just leave it?

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MolliciousIntent · 02/08/2022 23:59

If they're happy without friends, leave them to it. Pushing ND kids to conform to NT standards is a recipe for miserable children.

BiscoffSundae · 03/08/2022 12:37

Yes you are probably right, I guess it’s just getting harder as they are getting older as they spend all day at home in the holidays (like I said we go out but it’s getting harder as they get older as they want to go to places less and less as they are getting too old for certain things and now find them boring) and it’s difficult keeping them occupied at home. Also as they go to secondary I worry they may end up as a target for bullies if they have no friends I know secondary can be a lot more harsh than primary school, but I will leave them to it and not try to encourage anything.

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MSamba · 03/08/2022 15:06

MolliciousIntent · 02/08/2022 23:59

If they're happy without friends, leave them to it. Pushing ND kids to conform to NT standards is a recipe for miserable children.

100% agree, to coming from someone who is ND but brought up with the expectation to conform to social norms. Your kids are who they are, just accept them for that.

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