Sleepovers and privacy for children

[LairyMcClairy]

DD is six and her group of friends are just starting to invite each other over for sleepovers.

We’ve got a couple scheduled over the summer.

What’s the best way to approach making sure the girls have help if needed but giving them privacy too?

DD would usually have a bath or shower every night and I’d help her but I feel reluctant to suggest a bath or shower for a child visiting.

I was planning on letting them put pjs on when they want to alone in my DDs room and then just reminding them to wash hands, face and anywhere else to want leaving everything they might need in the bathroom- is that ok? I don’t want other mums to think I’m lax in not helping them to have a bath/shower.

Wouldn’t expect children to bath or shower on a sleepover, they would do that when they get home.
would tell them to clean teeth.
for one night normal routine goes out the window, including the expectation of sleep!

I wouldn't expect them to have a bath or shower. I wouldn't expect your DD to follow her usual routine either.

Just remind them to clean their teeth and have a wee before bed, nothing more.

As long as they clean their teeth on a sleepover that's all I'd be worried about.

Of course you dont need to start bathing children visiting on a sleepover, and would be very strange if you did...

Even in the event of an accident or something that would require help with a change/bathing child, i would expect the parents to be contacted first to either pick up themselves to deal with or permit you to do in their absence.

6 is far too young. Just say no to that.

You do realise there won't be much sleep going on?

Six is quite young for friend sleep overs (that are not family friends children).
I definitely wouldn’t expect a child to be bathed or showered (and would probably find it strange if they were).
In all honesty, even now at 10, the only expectations of going to a sleep over is that they come home alive and fed! Sleep, washing, clean clothes etc may or may not happen!

The only exception to this is, my DD stayed at a friends that we had known years, know the mum really well. She text and said, the girls have asked if they can have a bath to play with some new bath toys, are you ok with this. This was just the girls having fun though, not because they actually needed bathing. We were close friends and she still asked permission. I wouldn’t expect a random school mum to start bathing my child.

Don't bother washing them. If they go to bed wearing pjs and without chocolate all over their faces then you are winning. Give them pancakes for breakfast and get them back to parents ASAP as they will be over tired and grumpy!

I’ve clearly said I’d be reluctant to- can you not read?

Thanks everyone- that’s what I’d hoped would be the response.

DD has been fine on nights away at friends houses and did mention she’d had a shower once after being in the paddling pool so I wanted to check what the norm was.

Bit rude to @ChatterMonkey "I'd be reluctant to" implies that you are hesitant but haven't ruled it out!

Not too young, my Ds has been going on friend sleepover since about this age.

All usual routine goes out the window, as long as they brush their teeth, I wouldn't worry about any of the rest.

And the no sleep thing is a myth in my experience, even at 10 yrs old I have a strict lights out at 9.30, they are generally asleep by 10/10.30.