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Father refusing DNA

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cord1234 · 01/08/2022 21:15

Without going into to much detail I had a cryptic pregnancy and it was very traumatic. I Have zero doubt that he is the father and even have had DNA done with some of his family to prove it to them. The legal issue is though I need DNA confirmation from him. Since the birth the father has ignored me completely, refused DNA and won’t cooperate at all. I want to add him to the birth certificate as 18 months have past and my patience for waiting to him to do the right this has run out.
I am looking at putting a declaration of parentage into the court. Or a claim into child maintenance, however I’m not doing this for money, I simply feel my daughter deserves her dad on her birth certificate.
Could anyone that has any experience advise me on the best avenue to take? Or how the process has worked for you. I don’t really want to advise a solicitor however will if I have too.
Thanks

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Hotenoughtoburnasausage · 01/08/2022 21:16

You can claim Cms even not on the bc. Not sure you can force him on....

ShandaLear · 01/08/2022 21:19

If you don’t want CM from him I wouldn’t put him on the birth certificate. It gives you much more freedom in terms of travel or moving house/abroad, or if a future partner wishes to adopt her, for example.

CandyLeBonBon · 01/08/2022 21:20

I wouldn't bother. Just claim cms and keep him off the bc.

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AlternativelyWired · 01/08/2022 21:28

You can claim for maintenance without him being on the birth certificate. That's what I did. If he wants to dispute being the father I believe the onus is on him to get a dna test. He sounds like someone who you wouldn't want to have parental responsibility anyway. My ds doesn't have his dad on the birth certificate. He pays maintenance but has only seen him once. Once, when he was about 18 months old. He's no loss to ds. Ds knows who his dad is, has seen photos and I've told him lots of positive things about the fun things we did when together, his dad favourite music and things etc so he has a good idea of his dad even though he has no contact whatsoever with him. Good luck

Youcancallmeirrelevant · 01/08/2022 21:29

why would you want him on the BC? That gives him equal parental rights to you! He could go after custody, stop you going abroad etc

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