I was with my Ex for 6 years and never saw any signs of violence or agression in him. We split up 2 years ago and have a 4 year old son. We decided that our son needs stability and a fixed home so DS never stays over with ex and ex will come on average 5 days per week to spend time with DS either in our home where I am present or take will sometimes take DS to his house for a few hours or out in town to do an activity.
Ex had admitted to me that he is having trouble with his wife, they argue a lot and he has been violent towards her although I am unaware of the frequency or extent of the violence. My main concern now is keeping my son safe although I am unsure what route to take. DS has a very good relationship with his dad and I am reluctant to stop contact altogether.
How do I deal with this? Should I insist on contact always being supervised? Or some sort of anger management course? Should I take it to court and let a judge decide what is appropriate? We have never been to court before so I dont know what to expect of we go down the route.
Im struggling to see him as a threat to our son to be honest but I would rather act now and prevent any possible violence rather than wait and see what happens then act after my son has already been harmed.