45 minute intruder

[CoffeeAndCurls]

Because if the sleep regression wasn’t bad enough on it’s own we’ve been hit with the 45 minute intruder where DD wakes after every sleep cycle and never gets enough sleep. She is pretty much up every 45 minutes in the night too!

I suppose I’m asking for experiences of how long this lasted and how it changed because DD will only go to sleep if fed and rocked and then put in the crib so I’m aware she wakes not being able to put herself back to sleep, but I can’t even hope to move away from sleep associations if A. She’s always overtired and B. She will not sleep any other way.

shes 5 months old, EBF.

Will she lie in bed quietly while you're there? For us he was between 6-8 months that he did this (yes, two solid months while he was teething, then the 8 month regression), but we were sleep training. A different matter for you as she's too young for "proper" sleep training.

I would make feeding the last thing you try when resettling. First put a hand on her tummy and pat her slowly and rhythmically. Give her a few minutes to see if she calms down.

If not, pick her up and rock. Again, give her a few minutes.

If she's still upset, feed to sleep.

I probably wouldn't stop feeding at night altogether as she's only 5 mo, but if she can be settled SOMETIMES without a feed, wakeups should reduce.

Assume she's in your room? I had a next to me cot so i didn't actually have to get up to put a hand on his tummy.

Good luck!

You’ve basically described everything I do now down to the letter!
she’s a screamer, she’s hit separation anxiety at the moment as she’ll cry every time I step away from her eye line. I know it’ll improve at least somewhat when that calms down.
currently it calms her down during rocking if I sing nursery rhymes softly to her so I’m hoping to keep this as an association and hopefully eventually she’ll lay in the crib with me singing to her but I guess it’ll just take a while!