another baby?

[Nova324]

OK Hi everyone, just your normal run of the mill over thinker here.
just wondering if anyone can ease my mind

I have 1 DD who is almost 2.5 and my whole life. when she was first born I knew I wanted more, like I would have had more straight away aha (hormones) and although I talk about it often that I would love another one a little voice comes into my head and fills me with all the guilt of the world.

like is it selfish to want another one? is it saying my first isn't enough for me?
will she hate me for having another because she wont get all the time and attention? will she think I dont love her enough?

will I have time for 2 and be able to show them all the love that they want. and much more.

did anyone else have these feelings before you were even TTC #2
maybe you can tell me more positives i could focus on. i hate having to go over everything in my head all the time

thanks!

Do you have siblings OP?

@MolliciousIntent yes I have sisters and a brother!

Love isn't a finite commodity, it expands to fill as much space (and for as many people) as it needs to. Have another one and enjoy both of them.

I am a chronic overthinker and was the same as you. Dc1 was so happy I worried so much a sibling would ruin their life. Dc2 is now almost a year old and I can't believe I ever hesitated. They love each other so much, I genuinely think my eldest's life is much better for having a sibling, they're still so lovely and happy and my everything. And I can't believe I have two of these amazing human beings.

Two is fine I have three. You will love baby 2 just as much and you are giving your older child the gift of a brother or sister.

*like is it selfish to want another one? is it saying my first isn't enough for me?
will she hate me for having another because she wont get all the time and attention? will she think I dont love her enough?

will I have time for 2 and be able to show them all the love that they want. and much more.*

Think of all the people who have more than one child. Do you actually think they don't give their children enough time or attention and think their parents don't love them enough?

Did they ruin your life?

thank you everyone! these were exactly the kind of things I needed to hear. when those doubts come into my head again (as I know the will when I'm just looking at DC with so much love haha) I'll read these to remind myself it will all be okay!