Adult child, social media and house security

[SunnyNights]

We have a big family holiday planned, our adult daughter lives at home and is coming with us - she's currently saving to move out.

As we have a unique surname and DDs Instagram account is public with a fairly high number of followers, I don't want her to post about the holiday on Instagram while away in case of burglars.

DD thinks I'm being ridiculous, am I being paranoid or is this just good sense?

I think the likelihood of anything happening to your home is probably slim, but I do agree with you and would probably say the same thing.

I agree with @ANewNameANewDay .

It's a tricky one as she works in social media for her job, (not through) her personal account, so I see why this would be a good opportunity but worried about the unnecessary risk just for documenting on the 'gram'.

My brothers NDN went on holiday last week, posted it on Instagram and was burgled that night x

Should have read: (Not through her personal account)

Oh god @Amei that's made my mind up then!!

Couldn’t she take the pictures, save them, then post them when she’s back at home? That seems like the most sensible course of action really.

Maybe with a caption to make it clear that she was on holiday last week/is now back.

Well quite@Kanaloa, that's what I've suggested but that doesn't seem to cut it for some reason...?!

Could she move out?

Might be a bit harsh

We leave soon so no time to move out beforehand

Any chance of getting a house sitter? Maybe if one of DDs friends is in a similar situation living with parents and is responsible but would enjoy a bit of independence while you're on holiday? Only if they can be trusted though!

Absolutely not.

I admit I dont get the thing for sharing everything on social media, but its an open invitation to so many things.

House sitter isn't possible, but we do have family checking on the house intermittently

It happened to a family I know a few years ago too. They are very very well off and boast on Instagram about cars / watches / jewellery ect on an almost daily basis.

They then posted photos and videos of themselves on a cruise and they were broken into and had their cars stolen.

If it was me I would post them when I got back. It's not worth the risk IMO.

Hope you a lovely holiday xx

www.rac.co.uk/drive/news/motoring-news/police-warning-how-social-media-could-ruin-your-holiday/

sorry o/p but yes it’s a thing. Most police forces have issued warnings. It also it appears it can invalidate your insurance if you post on social media and get burgled while you’re away.

Oh okay 😂 thought it was coming up with a good solution but I imagine you did think of it as it’s a bit obvious! But she doesn’t want to do that which is annoying. I would have thought it would be just the same to post them on return really, it’s not like it will make a difference will it?

It amazes me how many people really share everything on social media though. Even with people they don’t really know who follow them. I never post on Facebook/Instagram but I have friends who even if you didn’t know them you could figure out where they live & work, go to the gym/clubs, where their kids go to school etc.

The insurance thing is a good point. Hadn't thought about that. I could see it would maybe invalidate it as we haven't taken all the steps to secure the house.

@Kanaloa I'm the same. Don't get the oversharing on social but appreciate I might be in the minority so good to check with others here than I'm not being over the top with paranoia.

I'm pretty sure it invalidates home insurance if you publicise that it's unoccupied? I know she's 19, but equally she's living under your roof and I presume you're paying for the holiday? Surely she can wait and then post pictures after you get home, that way you keep your home secure and she still gets tje gratification /whatever it is she wants to get from posting pictures?

We are paying, and in fact she's in her twenties so do get it's annoying being told what to do by your parents but equally it's our home...

Sorry, no idea where I got 19 from!! But my thoughts still stand 🤣

They are still very valid!

Even more so if she's older as she should have the understanding and consideration to get why it's not an unreasonable request on your part. Hope she respects your feelings about it as they're definitely sensible! (and hope you have a great holiday 😊)