I have 2 kids, DC1 is 2.9yo and DC2 is 12 days old. I'm still recovering from the birth during which I lost 2L of blood and had a bad tear that I needed 2.5hours of surgery to fix straight after my baby was born. I'm also a bit late to the game with my hormones and the past 2 days I've felt very teary which I think is normal only with DC1 this kicked in a lot earlier.
DC2 has been an absolute dream baby so far and has been a brilliant sleeper and is feeding well. DC1 suffered from reflux and was extremely difficult to get to sleep and cried most of the time and so my OH and I agreed that we would try to put DC2 down to sleep in his moses basket from day 1. He's really happy to sleep there after being fed and I've been so blown away at how different my experience is of having a new born this time round. The past 2 days DC2 has been a little harder to get to sleep but still not a patch on the lengths I had to go to to get DC1 to sleep (bouncing, rocking, pram, holding etc). The problem is that I've been getting DC2 off to sleep and then my toddler will wake him up by just generally being a toddler (shouting, banging things, running around). I spent basically from 2pm until 6 pm just going through the cycle of getting baby to sleep, toddler wakes him up then trying again etc. I just feel like crying because my toddler is being so patient with me having to give my attention to the baby but she is also yearning for my attention. My OH is on paternity leave and hr has been such an amazing help, making it easy for me to rest and recover but it's got to the point where my toddler is craving my attention and he can't distract her. I am really starting to worry about how on earth I'm going to do this by myself when he goes back to work and how I'm going to get my baby to sleep. I know a lot of people recommend using a sling but right now I am not able to move about a lot because I'm still recovering from the birth and my baby doesn't actually like to be held upright- another problem because it makes burping him difficult. I honestly just want to cry and I'm worried I'm not going to cope. What can I do?