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[Stylishmissy90]

Please no judgement as it’s a personal matter to me.

just writing this to see if anyone else has similar opinion.
I have a 4 month old son whom I adore. I tend to buy him some of the girls clothing too because I much prefer the girls in babies clothing to boys. I do buy him boys aswel of course and by no means raising him to make out that he’s a girl! I just prefer baby girl clothing and I think it looks super cute on him.
I personally cannot see harm in it at all but it’s in my mind that I must be a bad parent because I dress him in some of the girls clothing range.
he’s happy, well cared for and to me that’s all that matters as he doesn’t care what he wears as a baby, but it does slightly make me feel such an awful mother especially when people compliment “she’s beautiful” oblivious to them that he’s a boy.

I dressed my son in flowery baby grows. I never went as far as a dress or anything but I just got whatever baby grows I thought were nice.

Yeah I do that. No big deal.

My son has spent a lot of time wearing his sisters hand-me-downs, I wouldn't worry about it.

People would call him a girl if you dressed him in steel toe caps and a builders helmet. Don't worry!

That’s cool. Why do I feel like I’m awful for doing it tho

Because you're a mom now and whatever we do we feel guilty and like we're not doing right by our children even though we're doing a grand job!

Honestly, I only stick to the more 'boy' style clothes for my son because I'm not a fan of pink and girly clothes.
If he'd been a girl they'd still be wearing the boys clothes 😂😂

Let him wear what you want. When he gets old enough he will say what he wants to wear. That could be flowery leggings. It could be jeans with a car on it

It’s clothes

Oh he’s loved and cared for and once he’s old enough to choose I would never push him into wearing girls stuff of course

Agree. He will probably hate it when he’s old enough to decide and that’s fine. I just think as babies they can rock any outfit haha

theres prob lots of women that do hate pink and frills but I would love to have a little girl to dress in the girly stuff lol

This is where I think it's worrying - dressing him in girly clothes cos you wish you had a girl. We dressed DD in lots of boys clothes because liked dinosaurs, not because we wanted a boy.

I chose lots of things from the "girls" baby section because they were brighter colours and nicer patterns than the "boys" baby section which often was dominated by navy/baby blue or dark dull colours. I couldn't have cared what anyone else thought and on occasion when DS was referred to as a girl I didn't bother correcting people because it was utterly unimportant.

I'm confused....If you feel awful for doing it - as you've said - and like you're a "bad parent"....then stop doing it! Don't do it if it makes you feel bad!

If he is dressed up in stereotypical little girls clothes, strangers will definitely presume he's a little girl..that's just a given.

To make it a bit clearer what was saying I don’t literally mean putting in some of the girls clothing because wish he was a firl. I do very much want a little girl one day yes however I’m buying him some of both genders because it looks adorable on him and I much prefer the stuff in girls range for babies I don’t buy dresses and such and. By no means going to raise him to make him believe he’s a girl either. I just like the stuff whilst he’s so young now

I feel an awful parent because of what others would think! Not in the sense of how I think as in my opinion what’s the harm in a child of baby age wearing both gender clothing whilst they’re so young as long as it suits them and they’re happy and comfortable. Obviously I feel it’s harmless and of no issue to baby because he will wear what he wishes to wear when he’s old enough to choose but I can’t help have that thought I’m judged as some horrible parent but nonetheless as his mum i would want to buy what I like for him whist he’s still to young to choose himself

That’s be fair though your child obviously is old enough to make that decision. Our baby is only 4 months so I myself cannot see harm in choosing stuff I like to pick for him to wear I’m just bothered that others must think I’m some bad parent for liking doing that, that’s all.

I agree. Unfortunately though I do care too much about what people think but at the same time I know he’s my baby and there’s no harm in dressing him
in both if it suits him.