Post partum insomnia and 2 years of broken sleep. Considering a hotel?

[Whoatealltheminieggs]

Apologies for the long thread title. I’m
seriously considering booking into a hotel for the night next week. Anyone done this and left dc with their dad for the evening? Wondering if I’d just get anxious and come home. I am so exhausted. I’ve got 3 dc. One is a toddler who has basically never slept through and regularly does the horrendous split night thing of being awake in the early hours for 3/4 hours. One of my others is going through a stage of getting up and down in the night and taking hours to settle at bedtime. After I had my last baby I had some kind of extreme post partum insomnia and didn’t sleep for seven days straight and ended up readmitted. I still struggle with insomnia now but I think it’s partly because I can’t relax when I know somebody is either going to start shouting ‘mummy!’, crying or just climbing into my bed and sprawling all over me. Gah!!

Yes, do it. One night of real sleep well put you in a much better place.
but, to make sure you actually sleep
give yourself time to be there early enough that you can unwind…perhaps do some yoga on YouTube, have a bath, face mask and then a sleep meditation once you’re in bed.

Yes. Absolutely. Do it.

Yes do it! As above make sure you have enough time to unwind etc.

My DH bought me a night in a nice hotel juat for me the Christmas after my second DC was born.....Best pressie ever! Make sure you have time in the morning for a leisurely breakfast as well.

I did it a few times. Had some dinner and a swim in the hotel pool.and then sleep!!

God yes. Loved my occasional night away…1/4 of a mile away!

I have three dc and did this twice. It’s heaven. Just to get up and have someone else do breakfast after a full nights sleep is amazing.

I did. Do it. Book it NOW

I hadn’t even thought about breakfast. That would be amazing. I usually just eat the kids leftover toast

Stop that shit now OP. You are not looking after yourself properly - and even if you don't feel entitled to do it for yourself, you need to be rested and refuelled yourself in order to care for your dc! Show yourself some self-care on a daily basis and have some proper food!

(That's meant to be tough love by the way, not meanness!)

Why is your DH not helping during the night? Definitely book a night in a hotel.

Of course people have gone away and left dc with their dad for the evening, why wouldn't they? Book a hotel ASAP and get a night to yourself.

@GreenFingersWouldBeHandy We do share the night wakings but she’s very vocal and the walls are thin. I find it very hard to switch off and sleep when I know she’s up