Tell me how 10 year old boys spend their free time 🤷‍♀️

[Mummytomonkey12]

My DH is concerned that DS is becoming isolated/ setting himself up to struggle with friendship groups in secondary school and not doing the sorts of things ‘typical’ kids his age do.

I have no idea 🤷‍♀️ what most year 5 boys spend their time doing……Do fill me in !!


DS ( an only) spends a lot of free time playing tennis ( average 5 times a week - it’s not especially social), messes around at a dad run football training session during the football season and we try and get him swimming once a week. He also spends time on YouTube but doesn’t really do gaming although I believe a lot of his peers do. He does go on the occasional play date - maybe one every 6 weeks and does his fair share of birthday parties.

DH feels he should be playing more football like most of his peers, gaming, cubs, spending more time hanging out with friends etc. He has a couple of good friends, but doesn’t really seem to be part of a bigger group. He can play less tennis, but I’ve kept going with it as it gives him a focus and keeps him off a screen a bit.

What sort of things do you boys do ??

In Yr 5 DS was all about the clubs, one night football, one night chess, judo, drama and horse riding, in fact I think he may have done 2 football clubs, 11+ classes and swimming. He did play computer games.

Computer games and YouTube here. I would have liked him to do something like tennis.

I probably wouldn't add football unless he really wants to as he already has a sport. Does he not want to sign up for cubs? I think a variety activity like that is good as it exposes them to lots of different things. DS was not very keen on starting clubs where he didn't know anyone. I wonder if we should have pushed this a bit.

More football I mean

Ds is 11 - he does football training twice a week during term time. Spends the rest of the time out messing around on bikes with friends, at the park, at friends house playing fort nite (at 10 it was minecraft), at home he seems to do nothing but watch YouTube 🙄. At the moment he’s spending lots of time at the river with friends. We are lucky to live in a village so loads of freedom.

I think that sounds pretty usual and I would keep the tennis if he enjoys it ? I think having a sport is important for physical health and getting out of the house when they get older.
My DS is 10 - he does football training twice a week and games Saturday morning. He has to go to after school club twice a week when I’m at work. He goes to a stem type science club after school once a week.
We go to church once a week where he also has friends there.
I would say play dates have decreased slightly as he has got older but that’s mainly because a lot of the parents work and days I’m free to host / they are free to host / kids aren’t at clubs don’t coincide that much. I’d say once or twice a half term we manage one and he does go to parties. So I’m not sure play dates are an accurate measure of socialisation if that makes sense ?

Should have added mine loves playing fifa and watching YouTube videos about fifa ! But he plays just himself - not with others

Mine loves Lego, reading, his switch. He does cricket and cubs. Sees friends every weekend. But, the difference is that he has a younger brother who he will play with at home. They make up daft games together, draw together etc

Mine does a LOT of sport - cricket, football (training and matches), rugby, basketball (school). Gaming on his console and iPad. Reading. Lego every now and then. Play dates if I get round to inviting someone. He's also really into drawing / cartoons / graphic writing etc

We're close to letting him go to our local small park with his friend to play - maybe towards the end of the summer.

Who does he play tennis with? Can you not get him into a club with that?

DS is Yr6, soon to be Yr7

Gaming, watching gaming on YouTube, talking about gaming

Football training and a match at the weekend

Scouts

Out with friends on bikes, to the local park to play football etc

Playing with/annoying his sister depending on the day

Football in the garden with DH

Watching TV/films

That is reassuring to know. Thank you! We both work full time and are struggling with the volume as is but I do feel guilty threat I’m not doing more play dates. I think not being around the school gates make sit difficult to sense what’s the norm

DS is 10.5 and we live in a city, so no going out on bikes or meeting mates in a park yet.

He plays Minecraft/star wars/sometimes Fnite on the PS.

Creates cardboard cities all over the flat with old boxes and whatnot, then stages Lego battles - mostly against our giant At-At (ie the dog!).

He does a scouts-type thing on a Saturday morning for 3 hours ( they do a lot of camping and outdoorsy stuff, as well as activities such as visiting old people, painting murals, organising things for the homeless).

This summer he's tried padel camp for a week (padel is kinda like if tennis and squash had a baby!) which he really enjoyed, so he might start that once/twice a week come September.

He also likes watching videos of minecrafters on YouTube, and drawing scenes from his videogames or from films to make little books.

He is also sibling-free, we try to meet up with classmates as and when we can for the beach, park, picnics. But he's very happy pooling about at home - loved Spanish lockdown!

I have 4 boys, age range 9-20. Their interests at around that age have been gymnastics, football, scooters, cubs, playstation games, YouTube, swimming. All the usual stuff really.

My now 17 year old was the quietest of them (none of the sporty stuff listed above was him), he was a very studious type and didn't seem too bothered about socialising in primary school. However he soon made a very solid group of friends at secondary who had similar interests to him and now he has an active social life with them still. Children are all unique, unless your DS is unhappy I wouldn't worry at all.

DS is 10 and an only child (also both work ft). He has quite a few hobbies - Cubs, football training and matches and club swimming.

At home he plays on his switch, messes about with pokemon cards (reading them, filing them, drawing pokemon), doodling cartoon ideas in his notebook, making stick animations, making flip books. He does YouTube drawing tutorials but other than I don't allow a lot of YouTube.

He reads but not much fiction - things like amazing facts, world records etc. He doesn't game online yet and has only just started showing an interest in playing out.