panicking!! newborn kissing!!

[ginger9495]

I am really panicking! I was at my mums today with my newborn 3 week old baby and she had a friend over to meet my bubba. We had a lovely afternoon chatting but when my mums friend went to leave she said do you mind if i kiss the baby... i stupidly said sure no problem before i could think properly... she only kissed him on the forehead but i have been kicking myself and freaking out ever since!! I asked my mum and to make it even worse she is someone who gets coldsores although she doesnt have one currently. But I have been stessing ever since... i have antibacced where she kissed him and i am thinking as it was his forehead should be fine, but i feel awful and like i have let him down, i should have said no and now i am panicking he is going to get ill!!

You don’t need to panic. Your baby will be fine.

Do NOT worry, come play normal reaction when you have a new baby and with the cold sore fear and Covid etc but do t worry about it you didn't do anything wrong. It happened with me and mine and I was gutted and then I've completely forgot about it until reading your post and my child is cold sore free as far as I can tell. Relax

Chill. Relax. People are meant to kiss babies. It's natural. Nothing will happen. Babies being close to and protected by adults other than their parents is a good thing. The antibac is probably worse than a kiss tbf.

This

Wow. Chill out. 🤯

This is not it.

For those who are saying babies are meant to be ki

*kissed, try telling that to my friend who lost her baby to neo natal herpes at 3 weeks.
It's incredibly naive.

Op I'm sure your little one will be fine if they didn't have a cold sore at the time and you cleaned the area. Try not to panic x

Oh yes, I remember this fear!

I was lucky in that our relatives already knew that kissing baby wasn’t a good idea, and I didn’t let anyone else near him anyway due to covid 😂

As time passed I found it much easier to say no to people than I did to start with.

I totally agree with you, experienced this within family circle and it is not ok to continue to encourage little small babies to be kissed!

Agree not kissing babies is the way to go especially random friends. She shouldn’t have done it

kissing top of the head is what my Grandma used to do, I’m sure he'll be fine

Are you for real?

people are NOT meant to kiss babies. Jesus.

sure MOTHERS might have the urge to smother their OWN baby in kisses but even then I have never kissed my baby on his mouth. Their immune system is so fragile why would I want to risk that? Why would I spend time sterilising bottles etc but then go and kiss him? Never in a million years would it enter my mind to kiss someone else’s baby?!?! And if I saw someone kiss mine I’d make my opinion very clear

oh and babies don’t need to be close or ‘protected’ by anyone else other than their mother and then father.

I think you need to chill too. Why get so angry about a comment from a random stranger on the internet?

Well that's just all kinds of weird isn't it?

Absolutely a big fat no to 'people are meant to kiss babies' no they're not.

I mean yes the women asked but what you said is just ew.

I know exactly how you feel, I was kissed as a child and suffered from cold sores throughout school it was horrendous. I kissed my children but if there was a tingling I kept them at arms length and they’ve never caught them. Just don’t let random people kiss your child

@FreezyFreezy because your comment was so dangerous!!! Children have died from being kissed!

👏🏻babies are not meant to be kissed👏🏻

It's good that she asked & didn't just go ahead & kiss your baby! I'm sure your baby will be ok, it was just a peck on the forehead. This gives you a chance to think of a reply now if you ever get asked this again & how you can say no in a firm but polite way.

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I was exactly the same, my mum also gets cold sores, she didn't realise how dangerous they were and when my dd was younger and she came round with one I made a comment that they were very dangerous and she was mortified but it was all fine she didn't kiss her. She does kiss my daughter on the head as she doesn't get them often and as long as there's no active blister and hasn't been for 2 weeks, and they don't have any tingling, it's very very low risk and pretty impossible to transmit.
In fact my boyfriend's step mum kissed my daughter on her forehead (she has a fringe so over her hair) with an active one, I was not happy as she has told me she knows the dangers, and my daughter didn't get one. Safe to say I've not wanted to meet up since then 🙄
Maybe just have a conversation, verbally or texting, and explain your worries.