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gkok · 20/07/2022 17:14

Me and my partner have a 4 month old surprise baby at 21 years old. We are living at his family home with my family very close by. However I find myself doing absolutely everything for our baby except for a couple of hours when partner takes over to allow me to nap. I’m really struggling with having to do everything as well as constantly ask him to do things to help like the washing up and cooking, particularly as baby doesn’t sleep much during the day and needs constant entertainment and feeding! He just sits upstairs playing Video games all day (waiting for uni to start in Sept) or saying how tired he is and wants to nap (whilst he sleeps through the night in a different room as I’m exclusively breastfeeding). I can’t help but feel I’d be happier in my family home without having to feel annoyed that he’s sitting around being lazy.
I know it was a shock for both of us to become parents and he may be too immature for it at the moment but I’ve talked to him so many times about helping me and me feeling overwhelmed but the same thing keeps happening over and over.
any advice as to whether to stick it out or move back home? Thanks

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whereamu · 20/07/2022 17:18

Congratulations on your baby!
Sorry to hear about your situation.
I would suggest you don't make any big decisions yet - take a week at your family home to see what it's like there and how you feel.
You could just say I need more help with the baby and my family have offered to help so I'm going to stay for a week.
Something like that so you aren't making big decisions when you are so tired and both new to parenting?
Not sure if that's good advise or not but something to consider.

gkok · 20/07/2022 17:19

That sounds a good plan, I might give it a try!

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SaharaSahara · 21/07/2022 06:25

Would you get more help at your family home?

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THisbackwithavengeance · 21/07/2022 08:25

If he's not helping with the baby and he's not earning money to support his own child, then what's the point of him really?

He's a child who fathered a child. Playing on video games all day... I ask you!

He may well improve with age but I would go back to my own family in your case.

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