I’m a grandparent on 7months and my step daughter and her man are having issues with the other grand parents…
From our perspective, grand child comes to us with pretty much any rules or requirements that the parents set, being respected. They aren’t fans of publicising their child of 7 months on social media, they don’t like expensive baby clothes and they ask we share with them any movements, ie. we are heading to a shopping centre, going away or whatever. We don’t live incredibly spontaneous lives, not great fans of social media ourselves, none of the above seems unreasonable and is simple communications.
Two of the other sets of grand parents, have broken all these requests, despite initially agreeing to them. Now are insisting that the mum is controlling, and that perhaps is suffering from mental health issues.
They now say they won’t respect these requests if offering the parents time away from baby.
From my perspective…. What mum of a baby of 7 months old would not wish to know the whereabouts said baby…. More worrisome is the motive for insisting otherwise….
The mum involved is a fantastic mother, not afraid to ask for help when she needs it, always had a way with children, the bubba is constantly laughing and giggling when in mum and dads arms. Dad is awesome too, no qualms about reigning in mum when he feels she is out of line and they both truly know how to handle each other. Both are worried about money right now, but so is everyone and as family we help where we can.
Its not my intention to interfere in anyone else’s relationship with the other grandparents, and there is active head butting now going on between the parents and the grandparents, where simply put, the mum won’t allow her child to see grandparents who don’t respect the requests.
So we are doing our best to stay out of it and offer support where it’s required, but we can’t comprehend why grandparents wouldn’t respect such limits or requests.
But are we out of step, missing something, orr can we not see a problem in the young family that others can?