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Overheard son saying that his daddy isn't nice

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Galvanisethis · 13/07/2022 17:54

I was picking up my son (6) today from school and I overheard his conversation with a class mate. She asked him who is friends were and went through some people at school.. then she asked if his brother was his friend, mummy was etc,
He said yes, they were and she then asked "How about daddy?" he paused and she said "do you have a daddy?" he said "yes, but he's not my friend" she asked why and he replied "because he's not very nice".
My heart broke a little. I have been separated with his father for a long time (shortly after the birth as he became very controlling) but have tried my best to keep a relationship going for my sons sake (Personally, I couldn't care less if I see him again). It's the first time I have heard anything negative like that - but maybe it's truly how he feels. There have been a number of incidents that have been unpleasant during the children's lives but we generally manage to keep it together for the kids sakes and I don't speak negatively about him in front of him. He always seems happy to see him.

I'm not sure what to do from here now? They'll probably see him at the weekend or next week. Maybe I'm over thinking it..

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DenholmElliot1 · 13/07/2022 17:58

I totally understand how upsetting for you that must have been.

Can you talk it through with your DS?

Galvanisethis · 13/07/2022 20:26

DenholmElliot1 · 13/07/2022 17:58

I totally understand how upsetting for you that must have been.

Can you talk it through with your DS?

Thank you
I wonder if keeping him in our lives was a mistake and when he's been unreliable and difficult, I should have just left it and not bothered making the effort and just let him drift away. I felt like knowing him was better than not.
I will definitely talk to my son about it. Maybe it was something he picked up from me when I hadn't noticed he was listening.

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Crazykefir · 26/11/2022 08:23

You did the right thing leaving the relationship. How much effort are you going to to facilitate contact?

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upfucked · 26/11/2022 08:31

What were the unpleasant issues? Did they happen in front of the children?

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