My baby doesn’t like to cuddle

[Scottishbump85]

At the risk of sounding pathetic, I’m quite sad that my 5.5mo baby doesn’t really like to cuddle. She won’t contact nap AT ALL anymore. Even after her last bottle, she no longer falls asleep on my shoulder and squirms around until I put her to bed.

I know I should be grateful that she’s quite independent and likes her bed, but I’m feeling sad that I’m not getting any time just snuggled up on the sofa with her cos I know these days pass quickly :(

Anyone else’s baby the same way?

Is this your first? In my experience, after about 3m when they start to become engaged in the world around them, they become much less content to snuggle. It comes back when separation anxiety kicks in!

And while they are so lovely, I'd be counting my blessings if I had a baby who didn't want to contact nap. I say that because I've currently got a 15lb hot water bottle crushing my lungs and I really need to pee.

Right now, it could just be the heat. The cat won't come near me at the moment. Usually he is wrapped around my neck.

@MolliciousIntent yes she’s first!

Haha I know I shouldn’t complain that I’m nit chained to the sofa with her! Never happy eh? Lol!

@goldfinchonthelawn I don’t think so, she’s been like this for ages!

my middle baby was like that.
hates being cuddled, only settled when left on his own. As a 4 year old he lay in our bed and asked for a ‘morning cuddle, but one of those cuddles where we lie next to each other and don’t touch’… he is now 12 and still doesn’t do physical contact but is emotional connected, warm and wonderful.
he just shows his affection in non physical ways.

Both mine were like this after about 4/5 months but the cuddles come back!! My 21 month old loves a cuddle and it means so much more now it's initiated by her! She'd also happily sleep on me for naps and bed time, but I'm keen for her to sleep in her cot as she sleeps better that way. I do occasionally do a contact nap just for the cuddles though!

It's not the end of cuddles, they will come back and when they initiate that first cuddle, it just melts your heart! I remember with my first, I didn't move for about 30 minutes, because I didn't want it to end! We were sat on the stairs, about to go out and he suddenly just cuddled me and it was so lovely! He was about 11/12 months I think. My girl was around the same age when she started initiating cuddles too.

My two with ASD were like that due to sensory overload/issues.

I was like that. I'm still not very tactile.

Apparently I was a happy baby until someone tried to give me a cuddle.