Relationship with DP.. 6 months in

[summerlovin98]

Is it normal I feel so lonely and he annoys me so much

hes angry too and just snaps and is a dickhead

hes being a prick saying I’m ‘obsessed’ with our baby aka because I fucking care about him and because I haven’t had him stay at DP’s mothers yet

hes 6 months old and DP is saying I’m babying him - he’s a baby??!!!

I feel so wound up if I left him me and DS would have to go back to my parents house and I think I’m being dramatic thinking about leaving him

I just needed to vent sorry he just clearly doesn’t get what I’ve went through and how different my life is now

Is he doing much around the house or to look after his child?

A DF who was in a similar position made a list of pros and cons of being with her DP.

When she's written it all down the cons were a really long list abs the only pro was that he made her a cuppa in the morning.

Lots of missing info I think but if you’re unhappy and he seems unhappy have you tried calmly talking to each other about how to make things easier for both of you?

Why does he think you’re obsessed? Is he pitching in equally with the parenting and baby work? What’s he snapping about?

Since day 1 I’ve took over with DS a lot I have severe anxiety and only really trusted myself. DP’s different way was making me anxious he’s not bad or doing any wrong but I was so caught up in my way is the only way - this is why he thinks I’m obsessed
but the past month or so I’ve worked on releasing my
control and letting him do things his way and it’s working well so far

the pros out weigh the cons really I know I love him

What help are you getting for the anxiety?

Living with someone who has poor mental health can be exhausting and it sounds like for most of your baby’s life you’ve excluded him from getting involved. Is that why he’s angry? If you’ve insisted on doing everything then complained you’re tired you can see why he’s resentful. It’s his baby as much as yours and they’ve both missed out from the Sounds of things though it’s good you’re letting go a bit now. I mean it does sound like you were obsessed, as you put it, so his point is fair.

I don’t think small babies should be spending nights away unless both parents and whomever’s having the baby are happy. I never did it, neither of us would have wanted to. But maybe it’s part of a pattern of behaviour where he thinks the two of you agreed to have a baby and he’s never got a look in because you haven’t let him and see the baby as only yours.

You’ve got to talk to him, properly, and try to get on the same page.