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Absent Father and Baptism

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LoLo1304 · 07/07/2022 19:26

So to cut a long story short my daughters father hasn’t seen his daughter for well over a year, nor have I had any contact or received a court letter for access or anything off the sort.

We have her christening booked in a few weeks, I have invited his mums side off the family because they’ve been active in her life. this evening I have received a message off them asking are the ok to tell her father because “With social media being the fastest news around we feel as lotties family and His family that we should let him know of our invite as to stop any backlash for us as aunties, the guys as uncles and the kids as cousins” in her words. Basically implying that he should be told about the christening or even invite him.

But am I the wrong for thinking that he has no right to know about her life? He hasn’t seen her for over a year or no contact? And what he finds out on social media unfortunately isn’t my problem?

The days building up to him cutting off contact the police were involved for DV and him and his father (my daughters grandad( entering my house uninvited and verbally abusing me in front off my daughter etc.

Im scared if he knows about the christening him and his dad will turn up and cause trouble?

She’s a toddler and I understand she doesn’t actually understand what is going on but why are they putting his feelings before my daughters?

it’s her big day why are they making it about him and their feelings, when he doesn’t even know his own daughter?

ps, their message just shows what a nasty person he is, their scared if if they attend her christening they will get backlash off him.

Sorry for the lost post and thanks for listening :(

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RoseAndRose · 07/07/2022 20:25

Does he have PR?

LoLo1304 · 07/07/2022 21:43

Well technically yes he does but obviously he hasn’t seen her or contacted to see her for over a year

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Imthedamnfoolwhoshothim · 07/07/2022 21:45

As he is surley aware that his child exists every moment of every day and he is more than happy to ignore that you are not to invite him at all.

Be firm and if they fuck about cut them out.

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Fenella123 · 08/07/2022 14:48

Say you are happy to withdraw the invitation if they would prefer, (if they feel conflicted about having an invitation and not telling him) but in light of your ex's behaviour in the past you feel it best he not be told about the christening until after it has happened?

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