Does anyone else find it scary how much they love their children?

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I know I sound crazy but I've just had a baby and I can't believe how overwhelmingly obsessed I am with him already and how scared to death I am of anything bad happening to him ever.

It doesn't help that I had a really traumatic birth which resulted in a medical emergency, him on neonatal unit for a day followed by raised infection markers (which are still under investigation).

I just don't know how I can cope in the world worrying about this amazing gift of a human. I have a very worst case scenario mindset and always assume the worst will happen :(

does anyone else suffer with anxiety over their children's safety health and well-being and if so how do you cope?

I don't find it scary, just amazing. My 5 y/o DS is the absolute light of life, and I wouldn't be here without him. Just a shame his Dad doesn't feel the same way about him, but that gives me more to love ❤️

My DD is 25 and she is still the person I care most about.

Youve just had a traumatic birth and the added worries for your baby. You are awash with hormones. And don’t forget that these hormones evolved with the sole intention of making your baby the most important thing in the world to you, that you would give up your life if you had to.

It is hard, but try to keep you and your baby in a small safe bubble. Shout fuck off to anyone who tries to tell you having a baby shouldn’t change you or your lifestyle. Immerse yourself in your baby and his/her needs. Don’t listen to the news, or worry about friends or family problems. Don’t care about housework or meals for others. Don’t feel you have to be seen getting back to normal straight away, lay on the sofa all day if you have to.

Then in a few weeks or so, or longer when you have got used to your baby, and are confident of his well-being and your ability to look after him, then start rejoining the world. It won’t seem so daunting.

The worry and anxiety doesn’t ever really go away, but you will get more confident, and will learn to take it in your stride. Above all, try and enjoy this time, it can be very hard but flies so fast.

I do have moments where I find it overwhelming and scary, but I try to live in the moment and reassure myself that the chances are everything will be okay.

I like that poem about how life is amazing until it’s awful and then it becomes amazing again. You can’t control everything, you can’t guarantee all will be well all the time, but worrying about an unknown future is pointless, and likely to sabotage your current happiness. I practice gratitude, which sounds really naff, but genuinely helps me maintain a positive mindset.

I remember thinking that I didn’t know just how much my mum loved me until I had a daughter and felt overwhelmed by how much I love her. Yes it is scary, the news stories where someone has lost a child impinge on the consciousness, but it does get easier to manage.

I totally found it scary! I had borderline intrusive thoughts of all the ridiculously unlikely ways she could die. I have never loved anyone so much in my life, and I would quite easily sacrifice myself or anyone else to save her - Husband included! And I love the bones of that man.

It does settle down - its worse when they are so small and vulnerable.

I absolutely feel like this and mine are 9 and 7. I honestly think this is nature’s way. I really think a mum’s protective instinct is like no other. I have no answers I’m afraid. I worry about my kids a lot and I don’t think my fears are outlandish or unusual. I would be utterly lost without them.