Parent Taxi

[John4433]

Okay, so I understand that as parents we have the pleasure of being taxi for our children.

Our 15 year old son has a girlfriend who lives 4 miles away. Am I being mean if I say I don't want to ferry him to her and back every night?

If he gets the bus over to her should I be content to just go over and get him every night at around nine or ten in the evening.

Are we allowed some life of our own, or if he wants to see her virtually every day then should I just live with it?

Ridiculous. If he wants to see her he makes his own way there and back, and no way would I be letting him be there until 10 every night, what a huge imposition on her family!

Well no, that's not unreasonable. Once or maybe twice a week if I was feeling generous?

At 15 that is way too intense, even without the lift issue

Pushbike? 4 miles is easily and quickly ridden and we have lighter evenings.

At 15 they are perfectly capable of getting themselves there by bike or bus

I have a DS and I think it is far too intense that he is seeing her every night, but yes I would give lifts a couple of times a week. We live rurally and there are no bus routes and cycling is not particularly safe.

Every night is a bit much but it's only 4 miles, my DDs BF lives 45 mins away so count your lucky stars could be a lot worse!

Thank you, some helpful input.

No chance. Why doesn't she come to yours too?

my two get themselves to friends houses and back. Unless it’s late / dark. Self sufficiency is important.

Would not taxi every night, no.

Would expect to have the GF round ours sometimes, so that her parents take a turn with lifts too.

Would expect son to ask politely & be grateful!

DS's gf lives just over 7 miles away and gets the bus.

I always said my DC could go where ever they liked - if they were old enough to go there, they were old enough to find their own way.

Sounds cruel but they're both in their 20s now and have travelled extensively all across the world. I'm very proud of them.

4 miles is something your DS can find his way to and from. Do not be a taxi! My first bf at 15 lived 12 miles away - he used to cycle and I'd get the bus. Your DS is also as capable.