Anxiety about baby crying.

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I know this sounds ridiculous but i have such bad anxiety about my LO crying when we are in public. Its stupid as i know that all babies cry. But im just on edge all the time. LO is 3 months and obviously cries as that normal. We went to my nieces virthday last weekend and he cried so much when we were there, this was his first big outing with alot going om and alot of new faces so i guess he was probably overwhelmed by it all but now its made the anxiety worse 😵‍💫
Any tips or just to know im not the only 1 would be great.

I was the same when my DS1 was born. He's 9 now but I still remember it so well. What didn't help was that he was a refluxy baby who pretty much cried for 8 hours a day. So I was always so anxious. I was a FTM and just didn't feel confident or comfortable to begin with. It wasn't really until I had my second child when my first was 2 that I felt confident as a mum. I don't really know what made it better. We weaned him, his reflux got better and he stopped crying so much I suppose.

Last week I was out and there was a really young baby crying, that horrible piercing cry and it just took me right back to when my eldest was a baby. It just made me feel anxious and horrible.

No tips but know you're not the only one.
My little one has silent reflux and screams when she cries. If we're out there's always at least one person that comments. I hate it. I hate the comments, the noise and feeling helpless that I can't stop the pain.

I like to avoid social situations and feel better when my DH is there as one of us can take baby away to comfort her.

Also, my baby is honestly the only one that consistently cries at our baby group. I think I'll stop going as it makes my anxious every week and it's not fun for either of us!

My oldest was the same. It'll pass and please know you're doing a great job.

I'm pretty on edge about it and notice the stares but some are sympathetic looks so please don't feel bad about your baby crying. It is natural, babies do cry.

My mother in law used to say that's good when they cry it means they are getting lots of air into their lungs !!!! Changed the way I thought about crying. It doesnt hurt them and perfectly normal

Do you really think it's helpful to tell an anxious FTM who is stressed about her baby crying in public that hearing a baby crying in public made you feel "horrible" ?? I know you were trying to share your experience but that's not really going to help her feel better, thinking that other people may find her baby crying retraumatising!

DD had reflux / colic whichever (hospital tests, never got to the bottom of it.)
We were just told that ‘babies cry’. So I would just explain that to anyone if it was mentioned- I can’t think of one incidence where it was. But I have brf so probably no one dared…. but anyway.

It will pass honestly, no one is judging you or shouldn’t be- we’ve all been there. There’s literally nothing you can do, apart from hold your little one and comfort them. I think everyone knows most mum’s and dad’s are literally melting with embarrassment anyway! Don’t worry about it- easier said than done I know.

Honestly, no one will be as conscious of your babies cries as you are. I hardly notice when other people's babies are making noise unless we're in a very quiet setting.

It almost certainly sounds worse to you than anyone else. It's a primal, maternal thing really. I was out today with a friend and DD2, who is 2.5 weeks old, and she started crying. I was so conscious of the noise but my friend was like 'She has such a quiet cry!' Whereas to me it felt like it was piercing my soul

Thanks so much for all your replies.
It's so nice to know im not the only one who finds it stressful when the LO cries.
We've got 2 parties on saturday so going to be a good chance to be out of my comfort zone.