Hey guys I’m in a really big dilemma and need advice.
My husband has asked to have a mental break from the relationship and potentially leading to divorce as he’s not happy with a few things.
He’s not happy with:
- How I’m bringing up the kids he says I’m too soft and no discipline.
- He wants them to be Muslim even though I’m Christian and he won’t settle for teaching them both and letting them decide later.
- Hes not physically attracted to me anymore as since having kids I have lost a lot of weight.
- He doesn’t like my attitude to life as I’ve become less fun and not relaxed he said I’ve let the kids take over my life.
- finally he wants to move us from Derby to London as he says derby has no life and London is where he feels at home.
I know I need to make a lot of changes in my life as I have changed considerably since having kids and I have become more difficult and not taken care of myself or the relationship, he said he doesn’t feel loved by me anymore and that I don’t make him or the relationship a priority anymore.
What do you guys think and how has having kids affected your relationship?
I want to add that I'm noticing he's started acting single he's been messaging his friend whose a girl about our relationship and told her we have broken up and he's also planning to go and visit her as she lives abroad. This has also put a massive downer on me. I feel so heartbroken and I'm unsure what to do.