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Does anyone else feel such strong love for their baby, that it scares them

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FlllightAttendant · 16/01/2008 17:33

I hate to sound so daft but it is bothering me still. Since Ds2 was born, I have just felt so overwhelmed with love in a way I didn't experience with ds1.
I have only ever felt this way once before - it was a cat, actually just an absolute, mindblowing love - the cat was with me for 7 weeks when he died. (he was old, and ill though I didn't know it at the time)
I am scared that loving Ds this much (he is perfect, etc, can do no wrong) is a sign that I will lose him too.

It is crazy I know. But does anyone else feel this way or am I going insane? I could not bear it, I just love him so so much and it's making me cry as I type this.

(I try not to let Ds1 know the extent of my feelings)

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JingleyJen · 16/01/2008 21:09

I had a teenage crush on DS2 it is all encompassing I feel proper jealousy not just envy when other people cuddle him and I adore the fact that he is a mummy's boy, if he hurts himself and Dh picks him up I give him a very short time for him to stop crying but I do take over.

I feel guilt that I didn't feel this way about DS1 and wonder if some of DS1's attitude to cuddling and affection comes from the fact that although I loved him I found being a mum to him very hard.

Umlellala · 16/01/2008 21:18

Oh yes, I am so so so completely in love with dd. And yet now at 21mths I am even MORE in love with her - how?????

It helps that she is the most adorable, loveliest, kindest, funniest little girl in the whole world

Viggoswife · 16/01/2008 23:16

I loved DS and was very protective when he was born but not all consuming in the way I had expected. That crept up on me when he was around 7 months, suddenly overwhelmed with how much I loved him and how amazing my life was now. With DD it came much quicker - the moment I saw her actually. I did have a horrible birth experience with DS though and it was much more straightforward with DD.

Someone once said to me they were thinking about having kids and what would I say to persuade them so I told them that before DS was born I could go for months without feeling really happy but since I had DS I had at least one moment of pure happiness and joy every single day and that is still true.

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VeronicaMars · 16/01/2008 23:26

Oh God I remember that exact feeling with dd. I knew I would love her but I didn't expect to feel like I did, knowing that I would kill someone if they hurt her. Still feel the same but the hormones have settled now so I'm not as bad.

BumperliciousIsOneHotMother · 17/01/2008 09:06

FA I kind feel the same and it scares me. I feel so dependent on her that if anything happened to her I would fall apart, as would the rest of my life. It scares me that my happiness now relies on DD being ok, I've never felt this dependent on anyone.

It's not even a selfless "I must protect the innocent baby/overwhelming sense of responsibility" feeling it's purely selfish "if anything happened to her I would feel terrible.

Scares me. Hopefully it'll dissipate a bit if I have another child, don't put all your eggs in one basket and all that

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