The background - baby is 5 months old, formula fed (so not a breastfeeding issue). DH is very involved - we both work full time, he has her on his own one day a week, as do I, then we have one day together the three of us (other 4 days baby is with family). He does bathtime, feeds, night settling just as much as I do, we are very much 50/50. He even has her overnight alone as I have to travel for work occasionally.
The issue - baby has recently started screaming if he tries to settle her. Obviously when I've been away he's had to just put up with it and keep cuddling her until she eventually tires herself out crying, but when I'm here I feel awful for them both so I often step in and ask if he'd like me to take her (I never insist as I don't want to make him feel like this is his fault). Does anyone have any tips on how best to handle?
Obviously they go through phases and as the adult you can't let it get to you but it's soul destroying seeing it, I can tell he feels utterly crap (the same way I did when she started smiling and would smile for everyone but me), and I want to help but don't know how!
Thanks for reading if you got this far