Anyone some sort of baby sleep expert?

[ReeseWitherfork]

I’ve got 3 month old twins and an almost three year old.

How do I get the twins to sleep during the day? And where?

I have three days where my 3YO isn’t here, and we get on OKish. The days he is here is a nightmare. And they get more and more overtired.

They fall asleep eventually after being rocked and that’s about the only scenario. It takes anywhere from 15 minutes up to half an hour as standard to rock them both to sleep. And at least half the time, the rocking has to continue else they’ll wake.

But as soon as my son makes any noise, it’s game over. They can’t fall asleep. Or they wake up. I’ve tried setting him up with something to play with and taking them to a quieter part of the house but he comes and finds me. I got so stressed once I locked him downstairs (with the stair gates) but then everyone just got upset.

Ultimately what I need is a magical way for them to fall asleep independently in another part of the house. How on earth do I achieve that?!

I do not have twins, I just saw your post and noticed no one had commented though and I didn't just want to scroll on. Have you tried to find some parents of multiples or twin pages on Facebook? I bet there are some twin mums out there who have some helpful hacks for you. Or if nothing else solidarity.

All I could think was, maybe looking in to a sling for doubles, at three months they're so little you could probably fit both on your front and then you'd probably find they'd just go to sleep whilst you're out for a walk with the 3yo or at the park or home doing the washing up. Are you on the fb page Baby Wearing UK? I've seen a few posts on there with people who have twins.

Also don't be afraid of short naps because sometime that's just how some babies are isn't it? My daughter always had lots of short naps at that age. Have you heard of Lyndsey Hookway? I follow her on Instagram and have read a few of her books, I find her fantastically reassuring.

You sound amazing by the way. I hope you find a good way to get them to sleep.

What about white noise for when they are asleep it might help mask the noise from your older child.
As for location yes ideally babies should in same room as you but I think using baby monitors and letting them nap upstairs is OK.

I love Lyndsey Hookway, I wish I could pay her to come and help me! I probably need to find a sleep consultant that takes on clients who has similar values. She talks about habit stacking and I’m going to try and attempt that, just a bit baffled how to start. You know when you’re so overwhelmed you can’t see the wood through the trees?

I just can’t work out how you get a baby to sleep with a toddler present.

I did try some white noise near them. The toddler stood really close to it shouting “mummy what’s that noise!” over and over again. One of those “lord give me strength!!!” moments.

Its been 3 hours since I wrote my OP, and they've still barely slept, and things are getting loud and emotional in my house!

Definitely try habit stacking. My lo loved a very enthusiastic rock to get to sleep for the first 6 months of his life and a contact nap otherwise he would wake the second I put him down. I started patting with rocking then just patting while held then on to patting in cot and from about 9ish months i plonked him in the cot and left. He goes to sleep no bother. We use white noise too.good luck😅