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[pedropony76]

I’ve had a quick read online but I couldn’t find too much information on this.

If you request maintenance but their dad doesn’t have a job, what happens? Do they encourage him to seek employment or just come back and say ‘well he isn’t working so nothing we can do.’

I’m clearly clueless with all of this so apologies if I sound dumb

I posted a bit too soon.

To add a bit of context, I have two kids with ex dp who literally refuses to get a job. He doesn’t financially contribute towards his kids AT ALL and I simply can’t do it on my own anymore. There’s nothing I can say which will make him get a job or make him care enough to give money towards his kids.

If CMS can’t help me, does anyone have any suggestions/advice? I’m so fed up I can’t even cope anymore

I think (from experience) they don’t do anything job wise. You would end up with possibly a nominal sum from his benefits. Mine was £3 per week…

If he's on benifits they will take a small amount from that, but only about £7 a week, which doesn't go far. Have you checked that you are receiving any benifits you are entitled to? Other then that there's not much you can do besides budgeting and living of a shoe string, I know it's ridiculous.

If he's on benefits they can take £7 a week, but that's total not per child. They can't force him into work. How does he support himself?

Do go through CMS. £7 a week is £360 a year which is very little but better than nothing. Sadly there’s not much that can be done to get lazy NRPs to properly support their children.

Thank you for the comments guys. I didn’t think they’d encourage him to get a job but I guess that was wishful thinking.

He doesn’t even claim benefits. He lives at home and it seems mummy dearest gives him an allowance or money here and there. At least if he was on JSA he’d have to actively be searching for work and updating his CV etc.

I’m currently on maternity leave and I’m getting all benefits that I’m entitled too but it’s still a struggle. It’s so ridiculous how someone can get away with doing fuck all whilst they’ve made two kids. My fault for having kids with him I guess

Anymore for anymore?

There’s nothing I can legally do if he doesn’t work, is that correct?

You can't make him work just like he can't make you work.

Well that’s pretty shit isn’t it. Good thing no one ever needs to make me work

Absolutely nothing you can do to make him pay. If he's not claiming benefits, you will be entitled to nil rate. My ex works cash in hand and I get nil rate despite providing all the evidence he is working cash in hand. Naff all you can do and it sucks.

@Steelesauce sorry to hear that, that sounds awful. Working cash in hand to potentially avoid giving money towards your child, what a joke.

I didn’t think anything could be done but I was just wondering. Thank you

My advice would be do it all without him and take pride in it. Dont focus on him or what he's doing because it will eat you up and make you bitter. Focus on you and your babies, he's a waster.

Yup. He should be ashamed if he doesn't want to do his best to provide for his kids. Even if he claimed benefits he would have to give you £7 I think it is.

Nothing you can do, sorry. No way anyone or any agency can force someone to either take or turn up to employment. My ex gets around it by being self employed and getting any wages paid in to his girlfriends account just in case anything is ever investigated (which it hasn't and won't ever be) CMS are useless at doing even the most basic pet of their job

@Steelesauce thank you for this x

My mum has told me the same thing because I really am starting to feel bitter and it’s an awful feeling. It’s starting to bring so much hate within my heart but I have to focus on the babies like you say. Sorry to hear you’re in a similar situation too.

Thanks again for the most recent comments. I’ll just leave it as there’s nothing I can do anyway

I commented on your other thread, as I’m in the same situation wanted to comment on this also, my ex hasn’t worked or claimed benefits for FIVE years, cms won’t do anything about it, nothing at all, he won’t be forced to get a job if he isn’t claiming benefits, even then they can’t force them they just sanction them, my ex has a 3 bed flat so he rents out all the rooms and gets money this way, it enables him to not have to work, he’s told me he will never work. Cms don’t care and I get not a single penny for 4 kids this has been 5 years now.