Made to feel like a bad parent

[SarahLouise10]

Twice in the last week by different people, I've been made to feel like a bad parent. Long story sorry! I know I'm abit of a "helicopter mum" I struggle with the fine line of making my child dd (9) independent and I still should do things for her as a parent. I.e make a drink, I offer others in the household so why shouldn't I with her..her diet isn't the best but a grandparent said it's diabolical (we were away for a few days with them).. and I am more soft in holidays then school days .. but maybe I am doing more damage then good! 😩

What does she eat?

I think if you're getting comments from multiple people, it's worth thinking about taking them seriously.

If you're honest with yourself, really honest, are you babying her? Is her diet good enough? A bad diet is the greatest disservice you can do a child, it sets them up for a life of physical and mental health issues.

My ds diet isn't great as he is very very fussy my parents and mil may comment but they know we try and how he struggles and anyway also know that i would say it has nothing to do with them
My ds is fussy though and has food phobias so its hard , not a bad diet as in we give him sweets instead of meals
What sort of diet does she have ? Offering a drink i can't see an issue , as long as she can also do things for herself when needed
I offer my 18 year old a drink still if im making one

She's just a fussy eater, rather have plain pasta then sauce on, doesn't like cheese or ham for a sandwich so options are difficult when out and about.. have and will always encourage her to try new things, but guess I was abit like that as a kid and I'd try anything now as an adult.. I probably do mother her too much aswell. .

My ds is same still fussy now at 18 but we have managed , my sil and mil used to comment but I just ignored and sil ds was quite overweight so he wasn't healthily eating either , my ds isn't the easiest to take out but he usually finds something and has got better as he has got older