Sad feeling/grief post birth?

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Hi all,

I had my baby 4 weeks ago (my second), and in the last week or so, I have been feeling this strange unexplained grief/sadness that he is growing older and no longer the tiny snuggly newborn he was.

What is stranger is that he is still technically very much a newborn, and I’m grieving something that is right in front of me ?!

I also said he was the last as I am not planning on having more children but I can’t shake this feeling that time is going so fast and I’m struggling to really savour and relish this experience because they are growing up so so quickly. I even had to put away some of his sleep suits and vests as they no longer fit him. I feel like I’m saying goodbye to such a precious time and I’m not ready to do so.

This probably doesn’t make any sense, but wanted to know if anybody else felt the same
or could articulate any similar experiences/feelings after giving birth to their children?

Please tell me that doesn’t sound crazy??

I feel the same. Second baby too (probably our last). You're definitely not crazy. He's only 9 weeks but he's changing before my very eyes. I crave it getting easier but at the same time I want to savour every moment. It's such a rollercoaster.
Like the smell of his little head. One day soon it won't smell like that any more and it makes me so sad!
I also miss being pregnant and experiencing that absolutely magical bit where they are just born and you find out whether they are a boy or girl. Just the most special times.
Anyway, I feel everything you wrote.

I had this too with my first OP. So much waiting and anticipation during pregnancy then when she arrived, weeks like days and months felt like weeks. Putting the tiny clothes away is always the hardest bit.

Hi OP, I have the opposite feelings that might help you.

Our DD was born early with low birth weight, we spent 3 weeks in Nicu. Seeing her growing and thriving makes me really happy and every time she has outgrown her clothes is time for celebration.

I totally get the opposite feelings though X

Aww yes totally normal. They change so quick. I still get it now. My kids are 4 and when I look at their toddler photos, I miss them. Having kids is the slowest heartbreak, they say. Congratulations.