Should I discourage this friendship now

[lostittoday]

Hi
I have not long moved house and my ds who is 7 has struck up a friendship with the girl next door who is 8.

Most days this girl comes around our house to play with my ds and will spend up to two hours or more playing with my son in our house and garden.

The problem is lately my son has started getting fed up of always being at ours and keeps asking to go to hers.

If he suggests to her that they go around hers for a while she makes excuses like I don't think we are allowed, or my mom is sleeping, and that her mom has told her not to swap houses and keep coming back and forwards.

My son gets quite upset as a consequence and then refuses to play properly with her and will get bored and tell me to tell her to go home.

I have also noticed that if they do venture around her house she is abruptly called in or they get sent back to me for reasons like mom is busy cooking dinner etc.

I am under the impression that they are happy for thier daughter to play here all day but to not have the two of them under their feet.

What do you think is this relationship worth it.

i think it might be worth introducing yourself (if you havent already) to her mum. she might be under the impression that you dont mind watching her child for her while she is asleep or whatever. i would casually drop it into conversation that your DS has asked to play with her DD over at her house and you were wondering if that would be ok with her as you happily allow her DD into your home and you would be happy to allow your Ds to play in her home or garden. if not then i wouldnt go as far as stopping the friendship but i would however think twice about being her impromptu babysitter iyswim HTH
xx ei xx

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