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Almost 3 year old suddenly won’t sleep on her own

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mumtobeinsept · 26/06/2022 20:32

Hi All,

My DD has slept in her own room on her own since she was 1 and is now almost 3. The last 3-4 weeks she has suddenly decided she doesn’t like her room and only wants to sleep in our bed.

First I though maybe she was unwell and wanted some extra love but now it doesn’t look to be going away. If we put her back she wakes up at 5 and notices were not there and screams the noise down.

She has a gate outside her room and I decided to let her cry it out on a couple of occasions and kept going back in between. After almost an hour there was no sign of backing down. She was trashing her whole room and screaming at the top of her lungs.

I really don’t know what to do, any suggestions please? When she sleeps in our bed we barely sleep and I’m really starting to show at work when my brain just doesn’t function or the lingering cold I just can’t seem to shift.

she literally used to say good night mummy and put herself to sleep and I have no idea what’s changed!! Please help xx

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MolliciousIntent · 26/06/2022 20:52

Have you tried asking her during the day what the problem is?

What changed 4 weeks ago? New sibling, new room at nursery, parent away for a few days, etc etc etc? Something making her feel insecure?

mumtobeinsept · 26/06/2022 22:16

We did go away for a few days a month ago. My mum came and stayed at our house to look after her (she usually helps me 2 days a week with her too). She slept fine with my mum whilst we were away and everything was fine.

When I came back she did seem to have really missed us so I've made extra effort to spend quality time with her and we also had a family holiday since so we've spent lots of time together. Could there still be lasting effects from when we went away a month ago?

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mumtobeinsept · 26/06/2022 22:17

I tried asking what is wrong but not really getting anything out of her she just says I don't like bed

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MolliciousIntent · 26/06/2022 22:18

mumtobeinsept · 26/06/2022 22:16

We did go away for a few days a month ago. My mum came and stayed at our house to look after her (she usually helps me 2 days a week with her too). She slept fine with my mum whilst we were away and everything was fine.

When I came back she did seem to have really missed us so I've made extra effort to spend quality time with her and we also had a family holiday since so we've spent lots of time together. Could there still be lasting effects from when we went away a month ago?

Sounds like that triggered it and now it's a habit.

HSKAT · 26/06/2022 22:21

Agree with @MolliciousIntent
She's had the safety of you being there whilst she's in your bed.

mumtobeinsept · 28/06/2022 22:16

So what do I do about it?

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MolliciousIntent · 28/06/2022 22:26

Well it entirely depends on your kid. If she's a sensitive soul I'd be leaning towards giving her what she needs, letting her sleep with you until she feels secure. If she's resilient generally and you think she's taking the piss rather than genuinely feeling insecure, I'd go supernanny style and tough it out.

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