Have changed name for this as don’t want to be identified with previous posts.
10.5 year old daughter has mobile phone. Lots of controls in place and agreement on how phone is used. We have a very good relationship where I feel like she is willing to share most things with me, quite mature for her age etc.
Was checking her phone recently and came across an image from a boy in her class who is a bit older, showing a young male (presume it’s him but could be someone else) showing their genitals.
This was sent some time ago and I’m really surprised that she didn’t mention it at the time. We spoke about it and she said it was horrible but that she must have forgotten to tell me about it as I must not have been there when it was sent. Discussed how serious a matter this is.
What to do next? Friends opinions vary from police, to speaking to school, to speaking to parents (that won’t be easy to do). This boy has a bit of a reputation and would make her life a misery if he finds out.
I know people will think she shouldn’t have a phone at that age, which is probably right, however, all her peers have phones now and as I said, I felt we had a pretty good agreement in place around phone usage.
Im so gutted by this and I really don’t want to let it go. Boy is of course now blocked but should it be a police matter? School doesn’t necessarily feel appropriate as it’s happened outwith school.
Just stuck with what to do for the best.