Have you changed since having children?

[aboutamum]

I just want to know if anyone else feels like they have had a personality transplant since bearing children.

I used to be a lot more energetic, lively, sociable etc.

Now I'm a total hermit, I avoid social situations as I find them exhausting. I don't like people coming round or staying over. I feel a lot of my personality has been completely dimmed by motherhood.

I miss being who I was before my child.

There I said it.

For a good while yes. Now I think I’m more or less the same but a bit older and wiser. Took years to get back to ‘me’ again though.

My DDs are 10 and 7 and I'm getting my zest for life back now. Have had a brutal job for 4 years too which I quit so perhaps I could have got some zest back sooner.

However, I've also developed a not giving a shit attitude eg about how other people feel etc. and that is a really personality transplant. I'm 45 and think that is related.

I get woken up at 6am so now I have to go to sleep by 10pm. That means I have to get washed and brush my teeth about 9.30. It’s fucking miserable. I miss the days when I stayed up till midnight and got up at 8am like a normal adult, instead of being forced to go to bed early like a fucking pensioner.

My life 😆

When I stay up reading until 11pm I feel like I'm misbehaving.

No. I feel like the same person. I have friends from when I was in primary school and we're all still pretty much the same- some have children, some don't.

I feel like a shadow of the person I used to be.
I now no longer get dressed up, hair and makeup to feel good about myself the same way I used to. I am constantly in comfy gym style attire.
I am a SAHM. I am terribly jealous of my husband who still lives his old life like nothing changed (or so it feels) I am miserable and know that there are days when I have a temper with DH.
I feel I have no topics of conversation.
I rarely see anyone because of “nap times” and if we miss those then my day is just a walking misery.

I do have some really good days that make everything seem perfect and somehow manage to tide me over the bad days.
Also I am now exhausted by 9:30pm every evening 😔

I just want to lay in bed watch a film and have a really big wine and not have to worry about anyone

I have an almost 5 year old and an 8 year old.

My life has definitely changed….I’m knackered and drained most days. It’s hard not having time to myself and always feeling like I’m just a mom and not just myself.

Yes I'm more confident and settled.

Now I'm a total hermit, I avoid social situations as I find them exhausting. I don't like people coming round or staying over

Tbf this happened to me in my 30s too and I don't have kids