I dont know what to do please help

[Lily189]

Hi everyone I have a 5 month old daughter she turns 6 months on 10th July
She has been a really unsettled crying baby from she was born after back and forth from doctors and an a&e trip we found out she had cmpa shes been on the milk a few months now and her stomach has settled and shes doing really good on it
But the crying is something else people dont belive us until they see it themselves
She is happy for so long then cries for nothing we do everything play with her walk with her sing to her put tv shows on music cuddles kisses everything she just cries I've actually had to start putting her in her moses basket and letting her cry and I have go in next room and I cry because feel so bad
I dont like to go anywhere as I know she will start and the time will be ruined for my 1 year old son i get anxious going out even to shops because she just wont stop when she starts
Me and my partner dont even sleep together because we take turns minding her at night so someone gets sleep
Doctors said that's just babies shell grow out of it health visitor said she just a newly baby I should just give her lots of attention and wear her like a kangaroo does with its baby then says to me take time look after yourself 😔
Its causing so much arguments and I'm feeling so down with it all
I love my daughter to pieces and feel like I dont know how to look after her because nothing is enough for her and she really seems like it all just for attention from me at times then even after a few mins the crying starts yet again it's honestly like shes just never happy

I'm at my wits end its 5 straight months of this on top healing from my c scetion and lookin after my 1 year old I feel so sorry for him as shes taking up so much time
And I'm scared me and my partner are going to break up over the stress

Anyone any tips on how to cope and ways to help her surely she cant be crying like this over nothing

All advice would be great tia

Not all specialist milk is completely free from dairy. Ask on the Facebook CMPA page as it maybe she needs a different formula.

Have you thought about overstimulation? You say you play with her, walk, sing, kisses, cuddles, tv - that can all be quite overwhelming for a little one and it's really normal for them to be totally happy and then suddenly totally hysterical. Can you try keeping things a bit more low key for her?

Fwiw I barely took my LO anywhere because he cried so much. He did grow out of it.

Hi Lily
Some babies are like that. Eventually, you’ll understand what happens to her. Maybe she needs massage (you’ll be amazed what touch on skin does to babies), maybe she’s a genius and need stimulation, maybe…who knows!
Please, make sure you’re ok. Ask for help for yourself. This is very hard and you’re not meant to be isolated. Take one day a time and make sure you make your life as easy as possible. I remember those days and feeling awful for having a disastrous home (I love order), but you know what? Years later I don’t care anymore about the mess or having popcorn for breakfast because I didn’t do shopping. Carrying my baby around was the solution for us. Big hug and Good luck.

Does she have reflux or silent reflux, it is usually paired with cmpa.

Could also be teething

I would agree with @Flopisfatteningbingforchristmas. My little one is the exact same age and also has CMPA. As she’s my second and the older one also has it I managed to spot it and react pretty quickly but the different in her happiness and crying is massive. She’s breastfed, but I tried formula so that I could have the odd break. The first one was the hydrolysed cow’s milk and she couldn’t tolerate it at all. Then I went back to the dr for the amino based one and she can tolerate this fine.
As she’s nearly ready for food I’d try to get your head around dairy free weaning as it’s another layer of complication if the rest of the family eat dairy.
Good luck :)