Toddler party - 1 parent or 2?

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Sorry if I'm overthinking because of lockdowns we've only been to 2 birthday parties where the parents were very close friends so it was obvious we could both go.

Our toddler has received her 1st invite from a friend at nursery we don't know. Party will be in their garden and sounds quite informal.

I RSVP'd for our our child but then suddenly panicked that I hadn't mentioned us. I will message to make sure but I'm now panicking a bit as I'm not sure what's usual ot expected or not so I'd like to ask what's normal so I known how to phrase my message if needed.

I love to see our child play with their friends and would like to meet theor friend's parents but I'm quite shy at first so parties with unknown people do terrify me slightly but my husband normally misses out on things like this so would quite like to go too.

One parent unless they live in a mansion they probably don’t have the space for two parents per child.

If they are so little that they need a parent there, then you can both go. It doesn’t need checking out beforehand.

How old? One parent only if you are staying unless they say it's a free for all. I hated parents staying anyway so more than one would have been a total nightmare.

Just message "just checking if they party is drop and run or you want me to stay - either way xxxx is very excited!"

In the garden, if it rains and it needs moving indoors then one parent would be better for space reasons.

She's 2.5 so definitely fits that criteria

Pre Covid DP and I used to take DS together and it was never a problem. At this year's parties it's always been just one parent (usually Mum but occasionally a Dad). I'm sure it will be fine if you both go but if you get there and it doesn't feel right one of you could leave and come back at the end.

I’d assume a parent would go with a toddler; usually leave them on their own around 6/7 at parties in my experience. I’d think both parents was a bit odd, to be honest; I remember one dad who turned up to every party either of his kids went to
and hoovered up all the kids’ food and generally behaved as though the whole thing was for his family’s entertainment, so I may be a bit scarred by that!

If your DH wants to go, you could text with “is it okay if DH comes with me as we thought we might do something on way/on way back?” (Whatever “something” is). You can then suss out what’s normal for that group and you’ll know for next time.

One parent only.
Only time we've ever experienced 2 parents at kids parties was if it's small gathering and parents knew each other very well so wanted to socialise but host would have made this clear.

One only. I would have found it unusual to see two at any kids party.

You don't need to check for one parent.
But just one. He can take her if he usually misses out on it.
It is a childs birthday party, not a family day out.
I mean, you can ask and she'll probably say yes because it would rude to say no. But it'll definitely be weird. You might get labelled as the weird /over bearing parents in the group.

One parent. It's not a family outing.