Night weaning = toddler staying awake all night

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My toddler is 2 and 3 months, he is still breastfed overnight but I’m now ready to stop. I need to have stopped by mid August due to a few reasons.

I’ve started night weaning this week in the hope to get feeds to just before bed and in the morning for now. We had some luck in the first few nights and he slept mostly through and other nights he’s woken but his dad has dealt with the wake ups fairly well until 5am (which I then feed him if he asks as class as morning).

Last night he woke up at 1:30am and his dad woke me up at 2am and they were both so worked up and beyond calming down. Toddler was screaming that he doesn’t like his daddy and was wide awake. At 3am neither of us had been able to wind him down and him and his dad came downstairs to ‘chill out’ and hopefully fall asleep on the sofa but nothing.

Its now almost 6am, my 2 year old slept 9:30 - 1:30 last night and is yet to go back to sleep.

Aware 9:30 is late but he has been in his cot since 8 he’s just in between dropping his nap so this is sadly in the realms of normal for him. The 1:30am start not so much. Has anyone else gone through anything like this? Should I have just given up and fed him after almost a weeks of no night feeds?

It’s a 2 year habit. It won’t be solved in a week. You have to persist. I find all the ‘here is a magic way to solve a habit of months in 3 days’ to be mostly bs. Sometimes it works. Mostly it doesn’t.
Look he doesn’t need a night feed (I breastfed both of mine so I am not anti bfing). He’s old enough to have a bottle of water next to him and to sip from that if he’s thirsty. But in terms of his nutritional needs he doesn’t need it.

You’ll have to persevere if you want to break the habit. I don’t know any adults who can break ANY of their habits in a week so I don’t know why we think small children can.

Does he feed before bedtime? Does he fall asleep being fed? Does he know how to then put himself back to sleep without a boob? Also I wouldn’t feed him at 5 am. He can’t tell the time. It’s confusing. If he’s thirsty he can get some water and then breakfast at the normal time.

If you are happy to feed him during the day then a gro clock is essential so he can understand when he can and can’t feed, he doesn’t recognise how different 1-30 is from 5 he just knows that when he woke up once he got a feed but scooter tube he didn’t and won’t understand why.

i would make the 5am feed later too, so no feed until proper morning.

I night weaned and sleep trained my 2yo using Ferber, the book covers both of these (he was co sleeping too). It took a few nights of Hell but then was worth it