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Putting two ds in same bedroom

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bluebell1 · 15/01/2008 16:26

Hi i have two ds,s ds1 aged three and ds2 20 months.Tonight i am putting them in the same bedroom for the first time.Any tips.Ds2 is not and never has been a good sleeper.Thanks.

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Porpoise · 15/01/2008 16:35

If your dses are anything like mine, you won't regret it Bluebell.

Ds2 (who'd been the world's WORST sleeper) slept like a dream once I moved him in with ds1.

I think, if they wake up, they find it really calming to hear the sound of someone else's quiet breathing.

(Of course, mine are 9 and 8 now - and slightly less enamoured of sharing a room!)

princessmel · 15/01/2008 16:35

Good luck!!

No sorry, could you put ds2 (the not good sleeper) to bed first and when he's asleep sneak in with ds1 very quietly?? Maybe read them a story together then read ds1 another story downstirs while ds2 falls asleep.

Porpoise · 15/01/2008 16:36

oh, and ds1 hardly ever woke up if ds2 cried.

Do yours go to bed at the same time?

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bluebell1 · 15/01/2008 16:44

Oh i hope thats the case for me porpoise.At the moment yes they go to bed at the same time.Did think about putting ds2 to bed first but sometimes he takes ages to go off.

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princessmel · 15/01/2008 16:47

Does he cry while he's going to sleep? Maybe just try them together. Ds can fall asleep while dd is making loads of noise. He gets so tired by bedtime.

nailpolish · 15/01/2008 16:50

mine share a bed. one can be messing around, playing, chatting to self, in and out of bed, climbing all over the other and they dont wake

usually its dd1 (5) who is sound asleep as she is so tired after school all day

(they have their own beds btw but prefer to cosy in together for some reason)

Porpoise · 15/01/2008 16:51

OK, well the only thing you need to watch maybe is that your ds1 doesn't lose his 'special' reading time with you - if that's what you do.

I used to let them choose a book each and then they each had a turn on my lap while I read 'their' book.

SueBaroo · 15/01/2008 17:12

I have three girls in one room, and there are some shenanigans if a certain combination go to bed at the same time, some we have separate bedtimes which has helped us. But overall, they're very good with it, and I think they feel safe with each other.

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bluebell1 · 15/01/2008 17:23

Ah nailpolish thats so sweet.Pincessmel ds2 doesnt cry he shouts things out like 'hiya' and 'stinky feet'(whenever his feet are bare he says this)and usually doesnt stop until i go into him and say hiya and agree he has stinky feet.

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magsi · 15/01/2008 17:29

Our Ds's sleep in the same bedroom. When we first put Ds2 in his cot-bed and Ds1 in his bed for the first time, we did them together at the same time. It took about 3 days for Ds2 to settle, but he did it and now he is fine. Just try to resist the crying and resist going in only if you really have to to settle him down. Don't speak to him and say 'sleep' and reassure him. This worked for us. I think the longest I stayed outside the door listening was about 15 mins the first night.

They are fine now, Ds1 will sit up and read and Ds2 will play his musical teddy until he falls asleep. They rarely bother each other.

Good luck and resist the temptation to go in as much as you can, even if he falls asleep all over the place, you can soon fix him later.

Umlellala · 15/01/2008 17:31

Aw, I am so hoping to have another girl so they can share. I remember sharing and feeling very safe and happy (and silly).

Anyone put boys and girls together when little? Dd will be 2 when dc2 is born...

Twiglett · 15/01/2008 17:32

my nearly 7 year old DS and 3.8 year old DD share a room and have done for about a year

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bluebell1 · 15/01/2008 17:40

Well its not long till their bedtime now.I have just found an old baby monitor so im going to use that rather than stand near door.Wish me luck.Will try to post back to let you know how i get on.

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bluebell1 · 15/01/2008 19:30

Thank you to everyone for your encouraging words.If i hadnt have posted this on mn ds2 would have still been in with me tonight as its so much harder to make decisions on your own.As it is they are now both fast asleep in the same room.They were being silly at first then ds1(good sleeper)must have decided enough was enough pulled the cover over his head and went to sleep.Ds2 carried on screaming for a bit but is now snoring and he has gone to sleep much quicker than usual.Obviously this is just the start but its a good one..

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SueBaroo · 15/01/2008 21:13

Oh that's wonderful bluebell1, made me feel all gooey that has.

Mine are still monkeying about, but that's because the youngest managed to sneak in a nap at 4 o'clock for about 20 minutes!

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bluebell1 · 16/01/2008 08:33

Well i had an ok night.Ds1 slept straight through same as usual.Ds2 woke about three times which is same as usual for him also.Only thing is ds2 woke up earlier than usual at 5am but im hoping after a few days he will settle.

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Porpoise · 16/01/2008 10:44

Glad to hear it all went OK, Bluebell!
Hope tonight goes even better

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