Anyone else have a DH that is away a lot?

[jumperoozles]

Not really sure what the point of this post is apart from just to say looking after a baby pretty much by yourself during the week can be really hard! And I know I’m very lucky because I have a DH around at weekends and nights! He goes to work at 6:20 and is back around 6:30/7 so basically as baby is going to bed so just me and baby Monday to Friday. We do lots of groups and keep ourselves busy but it’s just days like today when LO has got up at 5 and I have a wholeeeee day infront of me when I’m tired…anyway, think I’m just looking for a bit of solidarity really! Anyone else sometimes feel the same?

Also I realise this is the reality for most people… not saying I have it harder. Just wanted a bit of a moan really 😂

Just because its the norm for lots of people doesn't make it easier.

Not quite as bad but DP goes to work at 7.30 and gets home at 6.30. It was very draining when DS was young and a rather sickly baby. I feel your pain but unfortunately have no advice.

I'm due second in a couple of months and part of me is wondering how on earth I'm going to cope. DS will stay in nursery n
But go down to part time. It's just going to be a case of muddle through

It is hard. In some ways I found it easier when DH was away for weeks or months at time as we got into a really good routine and importantly for me I could decompress at the end of a busy day by myself (he is supportive and I love spending time with him- but I value time alone which has been tricky since having a child in many ways).

Mine went abroad to work for a week at a time and it’s hard. I used to do something every day, even if it was just walking up to the shops or going to the library. Something to get me out of the house.

Thank you for your kind comments. I often try to power through and not admit to myself I’m finding it hard. I used to look after 30 children during the day for goodness sake for work why do I find one baby hard 😂 but I think one of the key differences is sleep!

Mine leaves the house about 7am and comes back at 7pm and goes abroad for a few days about once a month It can be hard but easier as they get older. I’ve got a 5 year old, a 3 year old and a newborn and I’m coping ok so it is manageable, you’ll get into the swing of things soon I’m sure.

Do you have any family support nearby? I don’t and I’m always envious of people who have grandparents nearby to help!

My husband is very hands on when he’s not working which definitely helps. Make sure your dh takes the baby for a bit so you can have a bit of alone time either in the evening or on the weekend, even if it’s just 30 mins in a coffee shop or a bath, it is important for your mental health to have a break when you can.