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Stubborn toddler help!

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Leia123 · 23/06/2022 07:15

Hey everyone, looking for some tips and tactics to help with my very strong willed 3 year old son.

Basically unless it was his idea and he's fully on board, it's not happening. He doesn't adjust well to change or any new situations and if it's something he doesn't want to do you can't even bribe him... for example taking him to get his hair cut (disaster!) or trying to take him swimming (absolutely not happening).

There are a couple of big things I want to tackle over the next few months as my OH is in the forces and is deploying for 6 months later in the year and I don't want to be left to deal with them on my own! I want him to potty train and he needs to move into a toddler bed as he's getting too big for his cot.

I have no idea how to go about it, the usual tactics of books/ watching TV about potties and beds, role play, talking about his friends who are all potty trained and in big beds etc etc just doesn't work.

You can make it seem like the most exciting thing ever, he'll seem really interested and then just loses his s* as soon as you ask him if he wants a bed or to use the potty.

With the potty we've tried reward charts, sticker charts, toys and tried to make it really positive for him with loads of praise but now he won't even sit on it. He's just SO STUBBORN 😂

Also need to take him to the dentist but can't bring myself to do it when I know it'll be awful!

He's an only child, 3 years 1 month. He's absolutely thriving at nursery, has loads of friends, meeting all milestones and they have absolutely no concerns about him. It's just his personality but it's exhausting!

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user1474315215 · 23/06/2022 07:27

I think that with potty training you just have to be patient. My DGD potty trained with ease just after her third birthday but my DGS absolutely refused. He screamed hysterically if anyone suggested he took his nappy off or sat on the potty. My DD tried several times over the course of a year, but he continued to refuse. Then a couple of months after his fourth birthday, when she was beginning to despair that he'd be out of nappies before starting school, he suddenly decided he wanted to wear pants. He was reliably clean and dry within a week.

Skinnermarink · 23/06/2022 07:30

The child I nanny for was exactly like this (and is still prone to it at 7, sorry- the losing his shit kind of thing)

potty training/ I never overload with a lot of info/chat about it. I do use chocolate buttons.

Leia123 · 23/06/2022 11:56

I wish chocolate buttons would work but if he doesn't want to do it there's no bribing him. His determination is quite admirable really!
I don't want to push it but worry that if we just leave him until he decides to do it himself he'll be going to school in nappies. I could really do without the financial burden, environmental guilt, mum guilt and getting kicked whilst changing shitty nappies! 🤣

Any specific tactics for dealing with children who hate change and new situations? I don't feel like anything I do works!

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