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Child being bullied!

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MummyTo2Monsters · 22/06/2022 15:50

So my 7 yr old DS is in school with hubby's relatives son. They are in the same class as well as share the same transport to get home from school.
DS has has been complaining that the relatives child has been bullying him, like pushing and shoving, threw a water bottle at him once. Considering that they are kids and had been 'friends' previous to the complaints I advised my DS to speak to his educator should this continue as I assumed it's kids being kids.
Recently DS comes home with a new complaint everyday saying this kid is bullying and hitting him in the transport not school so the educator cannot get involved, its getting a bit much so I asked hubby to speak to his relative and just let her know what's going on and ask her to speak to her kid. Hubby decides its best to take my DS over to the other kids house and discuss with there which I'm opposed to as I do not want to intimidate my child further. He then goes on to say I should call the mum since I'm a 'woman' , like what does that have to do with it. I would gladly call her but scared it might get unfriendly and hostile. I just thought considering its his relative it would be better for him to speak to her because the wife always becomes the 'bad guy'. I'm actually very upset with hubby for not standing up for DS and trying to push me to do it, its like he doesn't want to offend his relative as if she is more important than addressing the issue of his child being bullied!

Thoughts please?

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Tina8800 · 23/06/2022 15:47

"I would gladly call her but scared it might get unfriendly and hostile". Your son is getting bullied and that's what you afraid of? You need to do whatever you can to stop this, you can't worry about politeness.

Arthursmom · 23/06/2022 15:53

Be the 'bag guy' so you can be your sons mother. It is a bit rubbish your husband isn't being more proactive

AppleIsMyName · 23/06/2022 16:04

Sorry your son is going through this but you need to handle it. Call the mother as your husband suggested.

I agree he's being a bit nonchalant about it but are you just gonna roll over and do nothing?

MummyTo2Monsters · 24/06/2022 06:31

@Tina8800 considering that it's family I really did not want it to turn into 'family drama' and a fight between adults especially since parents rarely know what their kids are up to and wouldn't warrant me being impolite to her as I'm pretty sure that's where it would've led to as I tend to get worked up when it comes to my kids hence I asked to DH to speak to her.

I would never allow anyone to bully my child, I have stood up for him previously but this time it would've been nice if DH took a stand as well.

It has been sorted though. Well I hope so...
DH did go over to her house and let her know what has been going on. She did apologize and said would speak to her son.

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girlmom21 · 24/06/2022 06:38

If it doesn't stop can you and/or DH start doing the school runs instead?

DH did the right thing in telling her. She can't take action if she doesn't know.

MummyTo2Monsters · 24/06/2022 07:25

@girlmom21 it is a bit difficult as we are both at work when DS gets off school. We also did speak to the owner of the transport and he assured us that he will not allow them to sit close to each other and will keep an eye out for any bullying.
DS had been to school yesterday and said all was fine, school has closed today for the winter break, will see how to goes on when they reopen.

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