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Night out when baby nearly 6 weeks old, am I wrong for going ?

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Sunnysideupxoxo · 21/06/2022 10:51

One of my best friends has her hen night in a few weeks time , it's just 1 night out for a few drinks etc (the location is a 5 minute drive from my house)

My husband will be at home with little one, and she is formula fed so the feeding situation isn't a worry. He's a very hands on dad anyway

Am I wrong for going when she is still little ? Feeling a bit guilty , but part of me is also excited to have a girls night out !

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InTheNightWeWillWish · 21/06/2022 10:56

Go and enjoy yourself. She’ll be fine with dad. The downside for you is that it’ll be different to a pre-baby night out. You might find you’re the first of the group to tire. You might also not remember the night out a few months down the line, which is weird. Everything before 8 weeks is such a blur for me, I know I left DD with DH but I can’t remember where I went or what I did 😂

MolliciousIntent · 21/06/2022 10:59

No, you are not wrong AT ALL. This is the joy of FF and a decent DH. Enjoy it!

BUT watch your alcohol intake as your tolerance will be shot to hell by pregnancy - go with mixed drinks not wine so you don't dehydrate too badly.

Crocky · 21/06/2022 10:59

If you want to go and have the energy then go and enjoy yourself.

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Hugasauras · 21/06/2022 10:59

Our antenatal group had a dinner out when the babies were about eight weeks old and it was lovely just to have a couple of hours in an adult setting, a nice meal and a glass of wine! I left DH with some pumped milk and they were fine. I think it was good for them to have that time together too!

Enjoy yourself!

HSKAT · 21/06/2022 10:59

Absolutely fine.
I would just say that you won't be able to drink like you used to so take your time.
Paracetamol and pint of water before bed as babies and hangovers aren't a good mix haha

ShadowPuppets · 21/06/2022 11:00

Absolutely nothing wrong with it, enjoy.

UrbanMage · 21/06/2022 11:01

Not wrong at all. Go and enjoy yourself. Your husband will cope (the baby is his too and how many times will he go out and leave you alone with them?). And you'll miss them both and have wonderful snuggles when you get home, but also chance to be yourself. So many women lose their identity when a new mum, as they feel trapped or resent the lack of freedom.

and if you're anything like me, you'll be knackered by 10pm and want to go home anyway

Justme10 · 21/06/2022 11:04

I went to a hen night when DS was 6 weeks old, it was a great night!
You should go and enjoy yourself, there's nothing to feel guilty about.
I was out dancing till 3am

milawops · 21/06/2022 11:13

This Saturday my 7 week old will be spending the night with his grandparents so that his dad and I can have a night out. No guilt whatsoever. His grandparents adore him, he's been around them regularly (they have him for an hour 3 times a week so I can go for a run) and I cannot wait to spend some time alone with my partner and several cocktails. Go, have fun and don't let anyone make you feel like you shouldn't be able to have a night out.

SamanthaVimes · 21/06/2022 11:15

Absolutely go and have a fab time! This was the major drawback of bf for me. I would have jumped at the chance if I’d been FF.

Just be careful about your alcohol limits as they might not be what they were pre pregnancy.

Littlebirdyouaresosweet · 21/06/2022 11:23

Ds was 5 weeks prem. I had a night out to a pop concert on his due date!! Not much bopping as I had had an emcs!!
You have had a baby dc not been sent to a cemetery!!

NC1843 · 21/06/2022 11:37

We left DD at 6 weeks with MIL to go into London (approx an hour travel) for the day for my birthday. One glass of Prosecco later and I was waxing lyrical about someone chipping through the mud on the bank of the Thames because my tolerance was totally shot but we had a lovely time and it was great to get our heads out of the weeds for a short time.

MeridianGrey · 21/06/2022 11:41

It’s the perfect way to have some time away as it is so close. Go and enjoy it but equally go home when you want to.

Lalalalalalahh · 21/06/2022 11:47

I definitely wouldn't have. I got panicky if I was even in a different room from my baby, I wouldn't even have had the headspace to have cared about drinks or being social. But we're all different!

springbreak22 · 21/06/2022 11:50

There's always one...

Thejoyfulstar · 21/06/2022 11:51

I'm breastfeeding and had a c section and I can tell you that if I could have left baby for a night out and felt physically up to it, I would be gone like a flash! If you want to, do it. Personally, I felt like I had been through a hedge made of scalpels and I was attached to my baby/a pump. I did keep wishing that I felt normal and like the old me. Go for it.

MolliciousIntent · 21/06/2022 13:15

Lalalalalalahh · 21/06/2022 11:47

I definitely wouldn't have. I got panicky if I was even in a different room from my baby, I wouldn't even have had the headspace to have cared about drinks or being social. But we're all different!

That's very extreme, I'm so sorry to hear that, I hope you got the mental health support you needed and are in a better place now.

MeridianGrey · 21/06/2022 14:24

@springbreak22 well yes we all have different experiences 😒

AllPlayedOut · 21/06/2022 14:27

Go and enjoy. She's with her Father so she'll be fine and in the unlikely event that she isn't, you're only 5 minutes away.

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Sunnysideupxoxo · 21/06/2022 14:37

Thank you all for your kind and reassuring responses 🙂

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MsSquiz · 21/06/2022 14:58

2 weeks ago I went out with DH to a gig and left dd1 (2.5 years) and dd2 (5 weeks) with their auntie and her mum, and dd2 is 75% breastfed 25% formula fed.
My SIL said both kids were absolutely fine. She sent me a pic of dd1 asleep, having gone down at her bed time and said dd2 was babbling away and they were having a lovely time.

Don't overthink it, just enjoy it

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 21/06/2022 14:59

Go for it! And book the lie in for the morning after too!

TiredEyes1991 · 21/06/2022 16:23

springbreak22 · 21/06/2022 11:50

There's always one...

There was NOTHING wrong with what that poster said so not sure why you had to make the sarccy comment? Besides you best make that two because I would never have left my son that soon either

OP go and have fun if you feel like you want to go! everybody is different and there’s nothing wrong with going and enjoying yourself

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